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You'll also learn the 5 dangerous mistakes that will ruin your sex life and relationship. This article that you are currently reading is about what you should do beforehand to prepare your body for clean, pain-free, satisfying anal sex. Anal Sex Podcast After reading this anal sex preparation guide, you may want listen to my anal sex podcast to learn some powerful anal sex tips for intense orgasms. Listen to more podcast episodes here 1. First, check out some of the reasons why guys like anal sex.
You might even be the one to surprise your man with the idea! You might not have the things you need to make it a good experience such as lube or condoms.
You may not have time to relax and become fully comfortable with your partner. You may miss the opportunity to prepare, which also helps you feel more relaxed. This minimizes pain and the potential for injury while maximizing pleasure. Spontaneity might mean you feel less like you can have these discussions, especially if sex has already started. Of course, this may not always be the case; it depends on your dynamic and comfort talking about sex.
Unfortunately, a large proportion of people do not tell their partners if anal sex hurts [ 1 ]. Does Anal Sex Hurt? Check it out here to learn how. When it comes to preparing for anal sex, the talking should start before the activities. Explain your goals and desires and hesitance. A positive experience may be the difference between trying anal sex again or swearing it off forever! And preparation can make anal sex safer.
More on anal safety. Depending on the severity, anal sex may not be in the cards for you. Let them heal first. More on anal sex during pregnancy. Eating fiber and drinking water is key to regularity. You can always try again if you want good anal sex, but going through with it when you should have waited might lead to a terrible experience, instead. Excellent hygiene will also help put those nerves on ice.
If you can do no other cleanup, a wet wipe is essential. When no wet wipe is available, take a shower and really scrub between your cheeks and around your anus to clean it up. You can fill it with warm water, insert it into your anus and squeeze to squirt water. This can rinse out any residue.
Enemas — A further step that you can take to ensure you are super clean is having an enema just before anal sex. You can buy enema kits in pharmacies and even online if you want a little more privacy. While I could give you a detailed description on how to perform your enema, Wikihow already has a detailed article on the very subject here. Enemas are more invasive and not really necessary.
They can even cause irritation [ 5 ]. If you particularly enjoy them or have a fetish that involves enemas, you can consider one. Otherwise, you can save your money on that tool and stick to showering, douching or wet wipes to prepare for anal sex. This hair may be fine and baby soft or may be darker and more coarse. This is especially true for men, but many women have hair they might like to deal with before activities such as anal sex.
Hair removal cream, waxing, and shaving are all great options to remove hair before anal. This can ensure a closer shave. While shaving your butt is easier than most other methods of DIY hair removal, it can still be tricky. If you have short arms, curves or limited flexibility, you might have a hard time reaching around. You can try squatting or shaving in front of a mirror if it helps.
This leads us to our next point. This is totally normal and natural, and nothing to worry about. However, you can buy bleaching products to lighten the color if you desire. This can be costly and time-consuming. There are other risks with anal bleaching, too. A chemical burn is one such risk. Bleaching products make include ingredients such as Vitamin E, aloe, and chamomile to soothe and condition your skin, but side effects such as temporary burning and itching or permanent scarring a real risk.
You have to weigh the pros and cons. Finally, if you decide to bleach your anus to prepare for anal, avoid any product that contains hydroquinone. Hydroquinone has been linked to cancer and can permanently discolor skin. Learn more in our guide to anal bleaching. And any partner who cannot accept your natural body as it is may not be a partner you should be with. But how come some women adore anal sex and some women hate it?
Why the big difference? It all comes down to one simple muscle, your anal sphincter. This muscle is completely different than any muscle you will find in your vagina. Unlike many other muscles in your body, getting your anal sphincter muscle to relax can take a while, usually a few minutes.
They think a little bit of lube will do the trick and make everything easy and enjoyable for you. As well as using lubricant, you also need to give your sphincter time to relax fully. This is vital when learning how to prepare for anal sex properly. To do this, you need to allow it to loosen up slowly. This is why I always advise that you first learn how to relax your sphincter alone before trying it with your man when preparing for anal sex.
That way there is much less pressure the first few times you try it. Try relaxing your throat, which will help be mirrored in the sphincter muscle. Massage — A massage more on sensual massages is a great way to relax and get into the mood for anal sex. A full-body massage can become a genital massage, which can switch to butt stimulation instead. Kneading of the cheeks and light stimulation of your anus is a great segue into penetration.
Similarly, your man can start by groping and massaging your butt before performing analingus. You can also learn how to eat ass. A glass of wine — Many people, especially women, like to unwind with a glass of wine or perhaps by smoking marijuana. You want to remain in control, aware and able to express yourself during anal sex.
Oral, manual or vaginal sex are great ways to relax, too. It appears that women who enjoy a few orgasms are more likely to engage in anal sex and have even more orgasms find out how to have incredible anal orgasms.
Always Use Lube The next section is about how starting with fingers or toys is a great way to loosen up for anal sex.
Learn about what type of lube to use here. Use a healthy dollop and be prepared to add more if you need it. Check out our podcast episode on anal sex for more advice. These products contain chemicals that numb you for anal sex. So you can use them and not feel any pain during anal, which seems like a good thing. Plus, numbing makes it harder to control your sphincter.
People who use these products might think that they also function as lube, but that is not the case. You still need to have lube on hand for anal sex in addition to this potentially harmful product.
Fortunately, the rise of feminist sex toy stores and body-friendly retailers means that fewer of these products are available [ 7 ]. Start Small Although it can be tricky, you can use anal toys or your fingers to get to know your preferences via anal masturbation read more about anal masturbation.
Then, you can bring this knowledge to your anal sex experience and set the stage for the best experience possible. The best way to start preparing for anal sex is by loosening up your sphincter with something very small. I advise using one single finger. First, grab a small amount of lube and cover your finger with it.
Then rub some on your anus.