I was a junior in college the first time I heard about sex toy parties. As echoes of male jesting filtered in from the deck, a group of us lounged in the kitchen, trading stories about college shenanigans and, of course, sex. Little did I know this was the first of many hushed kitchen conversations about sex toys. About a year later, after hosting several parties, I became a Passion Parties consultant.
As of January , Passion Parties no longer exists]. But I really wanted what they were offering. Passion Parties did a fantastic job teaching us how to sell but provided no formal sex education. I read their book, memorized product information, and reached out to veteran consultants on my team. At first it was enough. This took me by surprise and I let my shock and judgment show far too often in those early days. So like the geeky neuroscience major I was still am!
Years went by and my passion for everything sex-, relationship-, and pleasure-related increased. However, as I learned more about the sex toy industry, something unexpected grew alongside this passion: I knew there were better, safer, higher quality sex toys and adult products. Thankfully, Passion Parties was making changes. They sourced toys without phthalates, rid most of their bath and body products of parabens, and added toys made of body-safe, nonporous materials like medical grade silicone.
I kept reading, researching, and learning. I needed time to grieve. This was the company that set me on a whole new life path! My teammates were like family. I loved selling sex toys and, at the time, Passion Parties was the better option. So I kept doing parties, showing a small selection of the quality products we did have. When I discovered My Secret Soiree in Spring of , some part of me knew immediately that it was my next step.
After many phone calls, tearful goodbyes, and four months of deliberating, I joined the company as the Director of Education and Training. One of my mentors at Passion Parties once confided that she saw me doing so much more. This was my chance. Beyond doing soirees, I train fellow concierges, write curriculum, and create blogs, vlogs, and presentations. We sell only body-safe sex toys and accessories, focus on education instead of sales, offer ongoing sex education for concierges, and provide services such as workshops and private consultations.
The opportunity to advance my career and work with a company who shared my values ultimately sealed the deal when deciding to switch companies. They represent my first tentative steps into the fabulous and fun world of pleasure-inclusive sex education. But as I learned more, I needed to do better.