Love Is a Highly Addictive Drug Love is arguably the most mystical and potent drug in the world—and always has been. Did you know that the brain actually craves love? The drive to win them over is a primitive response that produces intense cravings.
We essentially become hooked on the object of our affections. Looking For Love vs. Natural Attraction When we are actively seeking love , we look for certain traits in a person. These might include humor, kindness, empathy, intelligence, attractiveness, and so on. It arrives like a thief in the night, on the dance floor, at a restaurant, in an elevator, at work.
It might even hit you at the office printer where Amber from Human Resources shows you a side to her you never knew existed. Chemistry between a man and a woman plays a crucial role in making this happen.
How Chemically Compatible Are You? According to experts, we pick our mates based on how compatible their chemical makeup is with ours. This means that a person with high testosterone levels would likely choose a mate who has high estrogen levels.
But psychology also has a part to play. If falling in love is driven almost entirely by chemistry and our psychological makeup, does this mean we have no control over it whatsoever? Dopamine is released in abundance when we try something new and exciting.
Or you can create an image of touch via Text: Flirting with her via text makes her want even more flirtatious behavior. Luckily there is hope, and it all boils down to four key ingredients. According to sociologist W. Loving devotion in a committed relationship Thoughtful, honest behavior Satisfying sex Yes guys, I said it: How does this translate to texting? You still need to hit the sweet spot to keep the love flame burning strong.
General Rules Of The Game When Texting Women Before I get into the specific types of text messages that you should be sending her, there are a few general rules of the texting game that you will need to keep in mind: So you rattle one off before being herded into an impromptu team meeting for the next two hours.
Good morning my little Julie, Thanks for organizing everything with our friends, you make every weekend so special. Big kiss, Peter Watch Your Punctuation Did you know that the innocuous period you tagged on the end of your text may have made the whole thing look serious or insincere?
For example, compare these texts: I have a friend who is one of the nicest guys in the world. But his text messages come off as monotone or even cold. When in doubt, add a smiley. Text Her at Night Unlike busy, ambiguous mornings, evenings are almost always a good time to text the girl you like. She is in the right mood to be romanced. Start texting her in the early evening, stoke the flames of desire, and keep her thinking of you as she drifts off to sleep.
She might even dream about you. Especially if you text: She was driving him crazy with her sex appeal and intelligence. He wanted her all for himself. Whenever she was out with her friends or was otherwise occupied, he would start texting her.
I told him to cool it, to let her have her own space and wait until she was done doing whatever she was doing. You want the sound of your texts dropping into her phone to excite her, not annoy her. And trust me, nothing kills a romantic message quite like a follow-up text that demands to know where she is. Ask her how her important meeting went.
Take an interest in her life. Encourage her and be her biggest fan. You showed real courage Friday. As I said earlier, this is one of our four fundamental wishes, so take note! Thoughtful texts are really easy to compose. If she has just attended a function that you know she was dreading, ask her how it went. The key is to be specific. The more specific you are, the more personalized your messages are, and the more genuine and thoughtful they come across as being.
If you are completely out of creative ideas it happens to the best of us! It builds the trust that long-term relationships have as their cornerstone. Of course, showing vulnerability can feel risky. When we do so, we expose ourselves more honestly as flawed human beings—which everyone is, despite the images of perfection we feel we need to project. You may worry that showing any type of weakness will cause her to reject you, rather than empathize with you.
However, revealing intimate details about yourself has been proven to quickly build romantic feelings. In fact, an experiment by Professor Arthur Arun in which total strangers did just that for half an hour resulted in two marriages! What types of vulnerability can you show? Here are a couple examples: Showing vulnerability can also be just as simple as telling her how much you enjoy her company.
What To Say; Text: I want to know more. The devil really is in the details. Asking for her advice is a great way to show you respect her opinion. Big meeting today, was thinking white shirt and blue suit. What do you think? What color tie should I wear? Make shared memories serve as your virtual touch. Make her laugh by recalling the time you slipped in the snow. Make her dream wistfully of last summer when you both had the beach to all to yourselves.
Recalling intimate details of shared memories puts you at the forefront of her mind and reminds her how special you are to her, and she to you.
To really romance her like a gentleman, you should tell her how much she means to you, and do so on a regular basis. Tell her that your heart just smiled when something reminded you of her. How naughty is acceptable?
Studies have shown that more adventurous women will respond better to direct and overt messages. One emoticon, in particular, can be your best friend when you want to get flirty!
The difference a wink can make is huge. Consider the difference here: Sound her out first before deciding what course of action to take. Know What She Finds Romantic In the end, romance over any medium boils down to something very simple. It might seem obvious, but in order to be romantic, you need to give your wife or girlfriend the type of romance that she craves. According to psychotherapist, Dr. Barton Goldsmith, if you want sex and intimacy to be great in your relationship, you need to fully engage in romantic practices.
So take the time to learn what she thinks is romantic, and give it to her. Your extra efforts are likely to reap a whole lot of rewards. Here are some ideas: Did she grow up dreaming of marrying a handsome prince? Become her Prince Charming by sending her romantic bedtime stories when you are forced to be apart. Does she think that romantic gifts are special? Buy her a single unique flower and send it to her with a short personalized note.
Is music the way to her heart? Take a minute to think about your relationship and how you can show your wife or girlfriend that you are: