Anal Sex Myths 1. Talk About It First If you want to be granted access to the other hole, there needs to be a conversation had prior to entry. Whether your partner has done the deed before or this is a first for her , anal is one of those things that both parties need to get on the same page about in advance.
Ass sex is far more common these days than most people realize. This is because, if the prep work for her first time was nonexistent, the experience was likely a very painful one. But it doesn't have to be, and making the point to her that you're going to do everything possible to make back door pleasurable rather than painful will help grant you access.
The anus is actually packed with nerves; it's just a matter of stimulating them the right way. Proving this to her by using your fingers first is an effective way to get her interested in anal. Fist your hand and rub the knuckles gently against her anus.
Go in circular motions. If there's too much lube or spit, blow for an added sensation onto your partner's anus. Anal Sex Prep Preparation is key to successfully executing anal. Here are a few steps to take before you attempt backdoor entry. What Not To Eat It's a total mood killer, but you'll both be happy that you took this precaution later on. Tell your partner to avoid anything that would come out the other end as, uhh, sharp. For example, nuts and seeds.
Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone also recommends staying away from things that might negatively impact bowels. How To Clean Out One of the most common worries women have when it comes to backdoor sex is the amount of mess it could potentially leave. But if your partner is able to encourage a bowel movement prior to the act, you'll both have less mess to deal with.
To take it a step further, use a bulb syringe or do anal rinse using an enema bag. An STD that takes up residence in your butthole. Usually when we think about STDs, we're worried about them in the context of P to V contact, or oral. But according to Masini, contracting an STD from butt sex is completely in the realm of possibility. Set The Mood The key to a good anal experience is a relaxed anus, so take whatever steps are necessary to put your partner at ease and get her in the mood. If you don't already know what it is that turns your partner on, now would be a good time to find out, and then pull out those stops.
Whether it's a bubble bath or a certain kind of porn or you dressed up in some costume, do what you need to do in order to get your partner ready to go. Certified sex educator Anne Hodder suggests loosening things up by getting your partner off in advance.
With anxiety often comes tense muscles — and a tense anus! The more relaxed you can get the muscles around the anus and genitals, the more comfortable it will be to ease something inside. So be patient, and make sure she gets off before you try entering the back door. Give Her A Rim Job " Rimming , where your partner licks the area around your anus, can help relax the area and increase stimulation," says Hodder.
Of course, if the idea of doing this grosses you out, you might want to reconsider sticking your dick into someone's butthole. But in all seriousness, Hall suggests showering as part of your butt sex prep, which will likely help your rim job execution, as well as your attempt at anal. For further relaxation benefits, incorporate scents that are proven to reduce stress, like lavender, into your pre-anal shower.
There's no shame in enjoying some loofah action pre-butt sex — especially when it'll make entry even easier for both of you. How To Have Butt Sex You've done all the prep work, set the mood, and now your partner is all hot and bothered and ready for entry.
Here are a few steps to follow for some successful butt sex. Start Slow Don't just dive in there, dick blazing. Nikki Goldstein , "to help them unlock the brain pathways from seeing this just as something used to go to the bathroom to a place that can also cause pleasure. Lube It Up Lube and butt sex go together like peanut butter and jelly. The more lube you use, the more comfortable and enjoyable anal sex can be," she says.
Ease Your Way In It may be best not to insert your penis all the way the first time as well. Tell her you like it when she plays with herself if she's not completely enjoying the experience or are unsure about it. Communicate Laurie Handlers , a sex and happiness coach, recommends staying in constant communication. May I enter you only at the opening now? Asking how is the pressure? May I go further in now? And now how is the pressure? Sexual consent here is extremely important. Nobody wants stuff done to their butt without their consent, period.
Having a safe word is really good, too. Agree on this ahead of time," she says. Best Products For Anal Sex The incredible thing about anal sex is that, just when you think you've mastered this art form, a new toy or product hits the market that takes the whole experience to the next level.
Whether it's a new formula of anal lube engineered to create just the right amount of friction and slippage, or a butt plug that lets you operate it remotely, there's always a fresh take on an old classic being released at your local sex shop or favorite online store that's worthy of putting in her or your butthole. Looking to place a sure bet on your next anal sex toy purchase? We asked a few experts and some real women who love anal to give us the lowdown on the latest products to take your anal play to a place it's never been before.
Read on for their recommendations on the must-have items for the best anal sex of your life. The b-Vibe Rimming Plug When it comes to butt plugs , the technology featured in the b-Vibe is top notch.
It is also the first butt plug to have rotating beads for a 'rimming' sensation around the anus as well as tip vibration. Lovehoney Slimline G-Spot Sensual Glass Dildo Whether you're using a butt toy for the first time or she wants to try something more intense than a butt plug, Jo'Lisa, 27 says that this toy is perfect for easy access. I am just an occasional anal sex person, so this is nice and sleek just for that! Also — super easy clean up! Sassy Anal Beads If you've mastered the fundamentals of anal, sex and relationship expert Dr.
The beads on this toy differ in size, which allows you to control how intense you and your partner want the experience to be.
I'd still recommend inflatables to women who are already fans of anal. It's really a different sensation to put something in your butt first and then have it expand, rather than the other way around.
Van Kirk, "so be sure to have some on hand and lube it up. The first time I ever tried doing double penetration was using this guy.
We've got a good thing going. Swiss Navy Personal Lubricant One big pro to this personal lubricant? You can use it if you're doing butt stuff in the shower, hot tub, or anywhere else the two of you find yourselves submerged in water.
Aneros Muze It's a vibrator for your butthole. You may even want to give it a try yourself. I actually ended up buying my boyfriend one of his own. Anal Sex Don'ts Successful anal sex is all about experimentation, trial and error.
But there are a few things you should never be doing when it comes to entering the backdoor. Here are a few things to avoid during anal. So, it's important to be careful. Kat Van Kirk also recommended starting with just the tip of the penis and gradually going in as deep as she allows. Pulling out of her butt too quickly can result in serious injury to the anus — and nothing dampens the mood of a successful butt sex session quite like a trip to the emergency room.
When you've finished, slowly, gently exit the rear. Don't Keep Doing It If She's In Pain While discomfort during anal sex is common, if your partner is in excruciating pain, you're doing something wrong, and it's time to slow down and reevaluate.
According to Queen, common causes of anal sex pain include not being relaxed enough, going in too hard and fast, or not using enough lube. Anal Sex Myths Alright, so now you know the stuff you should absolutely believe about ass sex. Now, for a few commonly believed anal sex myths that are completely untrue. Which is relevant, since we're talking about ass sex, but it's also how this completely false myth started.
Positioning is important in any sex act. But for anal, sex writer John Romaniello says, it's especially integral. Neither of these are correct.
Both of these positions make things somewhat more difficult physically, but more importantly, can also lead to an emotional disconnect.
This obviously increases the feel of intimacy — and when your partner is trying something new, that's hugely important. Sure, there may be some discomfort, but it should never hurt.
When you're having sex with someone from behind or in a spoon position, you can't see their face and have much less of a read on them. If they're in pain, you won't necessarily know. But statistically, that's not the case. Particularly if this is your first go at anal, Romaniello stresses the importance of having visibility into your partner's reactions.
Any time they make a face that implies anything other than pleasure, stop moving. Allow them to adjust and accommodate, and then proceed when they are ready. Seeing blood coming out of your butthole?