I have many friends, but none make time to meet up. I can go months without speaking to anyone other than my husband and the odd person I work with on various media projects.
I work long hours, but can be flexible. It makes me cry. As a regular reader, I know you might advise joining a club or society to meet new people. Is this social media problem a legitimate issue — or is it just me? From the number of people I observe endlessly scrolling on their phones all the time, this must afflict a large part of the population.
Can you see the contradictions? No wonder you are reduced to tears of frustration. Do you talk to your husband about this? It worries me that somebody with a happy marriage can feel so lonely. Frankly, if your old friends chuck you too many times, then perhaps you need to ask if they are worth clinging to.
I believe you are overthinking this, which many people do with problems. So just relax, talk to your lovely husband, relish your life, and socialise with new people when you can, as well as reconnecting in a meaningful way with your friends. Dear Bel, My older sister and I used to be close. Then some years ago our mother had a degenerative illness and I moved in to help out. But she never really helped, despite the fact she has a happy life and plenty of money.
I had no friends in the area and my career was at a standstill. The years I lived with my parents were awful. I felt isolated and alone. My sister visited once a week. One night after too much wine I shouted at her and next day her husband rebuked me. After Mum died they started to take Dad out to dinner without inviting me. Then I received a job offer far away and left, leaving Dad behind.
He died a year later. They took the best things. I feel incredibly anxious about this wedding. My relationship with Angela and her family is nonexistent and I fear it would be uncomfortable. What shall I do? RUTH Problems like yours go deep and often have their roots in some long-forgotten words or incident that shifts a sibling relationship permanently.
Then, later, a cause of genuine concern you thinking your sister neglected your parents while you were having a grim time brings all the old resentments to the surface.