Today, April 18, is anal sex day! I have had good and bad experiences with anal sex. The first time is usually scary, disappointing, and some people many even hate it! But for me, after trying it again and again, using different methods and techniques, I finally figured out how to have pleasurable anal sex nearly every time. Now, anal sex is very satisfying for me! This guide will help you understand how to have anal sex the right way — and avoid any awkward, painful, or messy moments!
It makes it as far as the perineum, which is next to the anus. When done correctly, anal sex can stimulate the tips of these extensions by expanding the sphincter. I know the excitement my partner feels really turns me on and excites me. Mentally, it makes me feel like a sexual adventurer, and really naughty. It takes time and trust. If you were to have vaginal sex without any lubricant, it can create pain and tears.
The same goes for anal! Anal tissue is thinner than vaginal tissue, and is not self-lubricating like the vagina. By having regular anal play or sex, your body will just learn to be more relaxed and comfortable with the feeling.
The anus and the lower part of the rectum hold very little fecal material in them, so anal play is not nearly as messy as everyone believes. Have your partner put a generous amount of lube onto his finger and press his finger against the entrance of your anus and rub gently. Next, he should slowly push his finger in.
This whole process starts off very slow. The woman should relax her sphincter muscle and most importantly breathe! Add more lubricant throughout as needed. It can take several attempts with fingers and toys before the real thing. Remember, this process takes time and your comfort is the most important so take it slow — your partner should understand! My comfort level with my partner allowed me to jump right into partner play, but not everyone is lucky enough to have that. There are tons of sex toys which are specifically designed for anal play, which is a great way to start.
Stick with beginners toys. This is especially important during anal sex, where feeling pain could be a signal that something is wrong. Slowly continue the process fingering her and ensure the whole area is fully lubricated. Very gently push the tip of the penis against the anus. Remember to relax the sphincter muscles and continue to breathe! Continue to add lube throughout. Ease the penis in and then stop and wait after about two inches or less, depending on your comfort levels.
If anything hurts or makes you feel uncomfortable, immediately stop and tell your partner. Slowly pull out just a little bit and push back in. Repeat this motion, going a little deeper every thrust. Be sure to apply lube as necessary to ensure your comfort, and to maintain arousal. Although there are no condoms on the market specifically for anal sex, there are condoms which are more suited for the job than others. You should look for extra strength and extra lube because the lack of natural lubrication and the increased heat with anal sex.
Choosing the right lube is another story. There are lubes on the market that are specifically made for anal sex, but as always, be careful to avoid any lubricants that contain glycerine or parabens, which can cause pain and irritation.
Also be careful when using anal numbing products products. You just have to do it right, go slow, prep in advance, use a lot of lube, and keep your communication flowing throughout. Not everyone is going to like anal sex, but not everyone likes vaginal sex either! It can take a while for you both to get used to the sensation and do it right.