How to always have great sex, even after having been together for years. I had never really thought to write about it until a client of mine asked me for advice on how to keep his sex life great. We have all had good sex, and we have all had bad sex. But the worst thing that can happen is when you find someone with whom you have great sex, only for it to eventually grow dull.
If you are a man it is your job to work your ass off to make sure this never happens. So here you go, the advice someone else paid to get, shared with you all for free.
Happy girlfriends are more fun. Not bad, but not great. Instead of only thinking about your skills to get better, figure out what things are bringing you down, and simply cut them out, or find a way to work around them. Disrupting the Pattern Now that you are in the right frame of mind, I can give you some actionable advice, probably the best sex tip I know.
We have all heard the advice you need to keep your sex life interesting. You need to be adventurous and try new things. I believe that a big part of that difficulty comes from the advice being poorly worded. The way to stop your sex life from becoming stale, and to start having consistently great sex, is to disrupt the pattern. Unless you take action to stop it, all relationships will begin to fall into patterns.
When it comes to sex, predictability is the death of passion. So while adding crazy new things will be fun, the way to actually fix the problem is just to avoid letting your sex life fall into a pattern. You can disrupt your pattern in any way you like, the key is for her not to know what is coming next.
Even a very small disruption can have a big effect. Think of a couple who have been together happily for two years. For the first few months sex was outrageous, and passionate. It happened all the time, but gradually slowed down. They have now lived with each other for 6 months, and they are happy.
Almost every night they watch tv, brush their teeth, get into bed, lay there for about 30 seconds, have sex, then go to sleep. By all means this is a happy couple, but their sex life, while good, is not what anyone would call exciting.
If we check back in with them after another two years, chances are nothing much has changed, only they only have sex once or twice a week. This evening the man and his girlfriend are watching tv on the couch. They finish their show and walk to the bathroom and brush their teeth. As she nears he tells her to kiss him. After their lips meet he slides his hand to the back of her neck, grips her hair, and kisses her back hard with all the passion you had kissing before the first time you ever had sex.
Nothing much really changed, the only major difference is that he did not go to bed and lay there for 30 seconds before initiating some average sex. Even if he would have just skipped that, and not done any of the things described, the sex still would have been slightly better than average. Whatever it is you usually do, just do something different. Change up the order you do things, where you do it, even what music you are listening to. Just make changes, and do not let her anticipate the entire night.
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