His Mom Walked In: Does She Hate Me Now? While they were gone, we decided to have intercourse. His mother walked in the house to find us in his bed having sex. I was so embarrassed; I put my clothes on and just laid there. I didn't say one word after that, I just kind of sat on the floor and cried.
I called to get a ride home immediately but now I'm scared she's going to tell my grandmother who is my guardian and I can tell her myself. I want to know how I should tell my grandmother I'm sexually active and if I should write a letter to his mother apologizing. I feel she might hate me now. I don't know what to do You can rest assured that you and your boyfriend are not the only people to have a parent walk in on you during sex.
Sex of any kind is something that you want to make sure you have time and privacy for. Sex is about pleasure — and this rushing can have a lot of effects on this pleasure. When this is the case, you tend to hear every sound the house makes and the listening becomes more of a nuisance.
The same can be said about a parent or someone else actually walking in on you. Ask for his feelings on having had his mother walk in when she did, and also take some time to verbalize your own feelings. While you were embarrassed and he likely understood that you were upset because you were crying, he may not know that you are also worried that your grandmother will be approached with this, that you want to talk with her yourself, or that you feel like approaching his mom at this point would be a good idea.
Because he knows his mother, he will likely be able to shed some light on what her views are. Put yourself in her shoes for a minute — if you walked in and found your son and his girlfriend having sex, how would you feel? In the same, after talking to him you can both bring this up to her together in a way that best suits her personality and each of yours — whether that be a letter, talking to her together, him talking to her, etc.
By doing this, you can meet on common ground, allow everyone to explain their feelings, and thus work through everything in a calm mature manner. I've added a couple of links for you to check out as well.