Share this article Share Most men keep their eyes glued to the screen and it's highly likely he'll do the same even if you're there with him. If you're going to try it, don't take it as an insult if he gets super turned on doing it with you and don't take it personally if his attention remains fixed elsewhere.
It's habit, not a personal rejection. No-nos in the bedroom include women being noisy in bed when other people can hear file photo Being too noisy when others can hear A bit of moaning and groaning is fantastic but screaming and thrashing about like he's trying to suffocate you with a pillow is more than a little scary for men.
Not to mention embarrassing. You think he'll like you being noisy because it means he's a stud. Close on the heels of being too noisy is being too noisy, too soon. Over-exaggerated moans and groans when you've only just started kissing makes him one hundred per cent certain you'll fake it later. Tracey explains that there are certain sexual behaviours that are considered to be a complete turn off Lying back and taking it As in adopting the 'dead starfish' position and not moving a muscle.
Lying back and thinking of England isn't just uninspiring, it's patronising. It insinuates that simply allowing him have sex with you is enough of a turn on for him. Going to the loo just before sex and not washing afterwards This was the pet hate of my best male friend and his now ex girlfriend. In reality, it just hurts — and comes across as more than a tad overdramatic. The ultimate no-no for BOTH sexes… Trying something new without asking first Some sex surprises are great a present of a new vibrator you know she likes, trying out a new oral sex technique on him.
Being too self conscious about your body Covering, up, only doing it with the lights off, not letting him look and admire you — none of these behaviours will score you any points at all with any man or woman if you're gay or bisexual! Yes, we all have our insecurities and 'fat days' but if you're a few months in and he still hasn't actually seen you naked, you're taking things way too far.
Body insecurities don't just impact on his visual enjoyment, they often mean you won't try certain positions and are generally unadventurous in bed. Women are way, way, way more critical about their bodies than their partners are of them. If he says he finds your body beautiful, he does. Take the compliment and relax.
Only liking the missionary position Women favour missionary for many reasons — some good it's primitive and there's lots of eye contact , some not so good it's the position that hides most of your body and requires the least effort from us.
It's hard enough keeping desire high when you're making love to one person for the rest of your life, but impossible when you're forced to do the same thing every single session.
Other mistakes include telling him when to orgasm and acting as if you've done him a huge favour after agreeing to have sex file photo Telling him when to orgasm You won't win with this one.
Begging him to hold off just makes him even more paranoid he'll ejaculate pre-maturely; the resulting anxiety ensures he will.
You're much better off letting him climax and then settling in for round two or getting your orgasm through oral sex. Telling him to orgasm now sounds like a turn on but is often interpreted correctly to mean 'Could you hurry up and finish? Only dressing up when you go out OK, so this isn't something we do during the act of sex but it definitely rates as unsexy behaviour for most men. But the minute she's through the door, off go the heels and on comes the tracksuit. I'm not suggesting you watch a box set in an LBD, but men are visual creatures and really do appreciate it if you make an effort to look appealing.
This goes for both sexes, by the way. Just one word for men: Agreeing to have sex then acting like you've done him a huge favour Sex is supposed to be mutually pleasurable: Help by holding our hips and lifting us up and down or at least move your hips up to meet ours. You think it sends a clear message of approval that our thighs or stomach are lovely and will stop us worrying unnecessarily.
Refusing to wear a condom Women are far more likely to end up with an STI than men are: Pushing our heads down during oral sex What do you think would happen if we pushed a big sausage down the back of your throat? Thrusting too deep Some women like men to thrust really hard and really deep but for lots of women, it hurts..
Skipping foreplay Five seconds of kissing is not enough foreplay. Neither is a half-hearted fumble around the breast area. Almost as bad as no foreplay is you going straight for our bits with your fingers immediately as the session starts. It takes time for us to warm up and for our body to respond to yours.
Trying to last for hours Imagine a masseur massaging the same spot for 30 minutes: Refusing to give up trying turns it into an ego thing.