Are you frustrated by repeated rejections of your sexual advances? If the answer to one or both the questions is yes, then you must have wondered whether you have a higher sex drive than others, or does your partner have a lack of libido. All this boils down to just one question, how often do married couples have sex, normally?
And, is it significantly different from the number of times you have sex with your partner. If yes, then who is the one with an excessive or deficient sex drive?
So, how often do married couples have intercourse? There are plenty of different polls out there that lay out different statistics. Here are some of their findings: Newsweek magazine found in its poll that married couples have sex about In many studies, researchers and therapists said it really depends on the couple.
In most couples, one person always wants sex more, and the other will want less sex. How Much Sex to Be Happy?
One interesting study actually found out that happiness is related to sex. While it may seem that the more sex the better it is, and there was actually a point where happiness leveled off. The study was published by the Society for Personality and Social Psychology and surveyed 30, couples in the U. So how much sex should you have to level off with happiness? Once a week, according to researchers. The important thing is to communicate and figure out is what works for you both.
Sex can be a great stress reliever, and it can bring you closer as a couple. So if you both want more, then go for it! Unfortunately, many people and sometimes even both people in a marriage either have no sex drive or something else is inhibiting them.
Other polls show that about 2 percent of couples have zero sex. A low sex drive can happen to both genders, though women report it more. According to USA Today, 20 to 30 percent of men have little or no sex drive, and 30 to 50 percent of women say they have little or no sex drive.
Researchers do say that the more sex you have, the more you feel like doing it. Sex drive is an interesting thing. It seems some people are born with high or low libido, but there are many other factors that can contribute to it.
How well your relationship is going can definitely be a factor, but past sexual abuse or other issues with sex over the years can be a factor as well. How to Improve Our Numbers? We all go through ups and downs.
Times of stress, like moving, or a new baby, or illness, can all get in the way temporarily. A good marriage therapist can help you both get to the root of why sex is an issue, and offer help to bring you together again. Beyond therapy, there are many great books about sex and marriage you and your spouse could read together to get ideas. If you are both on board and want to reconnect, why not plan a weekend getaway to jump start things?
Quantity One thing to consider is the quality vs. If both of you love sex when you do have it, then great! Many researchers suggest to simply schedule it in.
Scheduling it simply means it becomes a higher priority. If your quality of sex is low, then that could be a reason why the quantity is low as well. In a marriage, sex is the tie that binds. If you experience a dip in your sexual desire, analyse whether that is due to negative feelings about your marriage, your spouse or yourself. Whatever you discover, make sure you spend time doing something constructive about it.
Stop the blame game and take accountability for making things better. Also, bear in mind that a good marriage therapist can also help you figure out how to improve things on all accounts.
But really, there is no set definition of normal.