Often people who are homophobic have hidden desires and since they think that it is wrong they turn it into hate. Well send me an e-mail and we can go further into it. I think you should explore that direction, and tell him more about stuff like that, and also bring up the possibility of having an affair and see how he reacts. I agree with Vance.
Did you see 'American Beauty'? I am also wondering if part of his turn on about the delivery driver was HIS being a man. I mean, I don't know that, but keep it in mind, OK? Lonelymom I plan to start telling him more often when someone hits on me.
As far as the gay thing I will keep that in mind. Maybe that is why me being bisexual doesn't turn him on more. Most guys go crazy to the thought of two women but he doesn't. It just doesn't seem to be 'YOU' from what you are describing.
But you need to know, especially if he is gay, because otherwise this will hurt you on many more levels than the most 'immediate no meeting of you needs. One way of telling is, that when men are gay, they are always paying attention to who is watching them. But of course I don't know anything. I am just concerned for you, as you should really have a wild and healthy sex life. Lonelymom yes it is about sharing our life's energies but we don't.
Our marriage is that of an old couple. He comes home about 20 minutes after me and we cook, clean, get kids off to bed, and then we go to bed. There is no excitement at all. He doesn't listen to me about things that go on at work. He doesn't flirt with me. I don't feel as if he is attracted to me at all.
Like I have said before we are trying to work on our marriage since we are just recently getting back together from a seperation. I don't want to nag him all the time about having sex with me. That's why I am asking if there is a way to lose my sex drive. Not only that but I start feeling weak and like I am liable to take up the offers I do have to have sex.
His desire to have you after another man hit on you could be his way of keeping you to himself but being able to do what he wants without you knowing. He may also have had an affair awhile back and never told you and feels guilty about not telling you and that keeps him from wantning to be intimate with you. You do sort of the exact opposite of what he expects from you.
You become more like him would be a good choice in this case. Now first, there are medications you can take. Plus they cost money and have side effects. Now, and keep in mind this only works for the long term, the way to get rid of your sex drive is to: People will tell you that when you stop masterbating your sex drive will just increase until you do something sexual, but this isn't the case. Yes, your sexuality will increase at first, but the longer you go without masterbating, your body will slowly adapt to the sudden loss of sexual activity by lowering your sexual desire.
No sexual thoughts, or thoughts that cause sexual arrousal of any kind. If you find yourself getting a dirty image or thought in your mind, immediately stop, and in your mind say that what you just did was bad and keep correcting your thoughts until your mind stops thinking them. Seriously, regardless of what other people will tell you, you can train your mind to think the way you want to, but not without resistance.
You just have to be determined. Unfortunatly in addition to blocking your arteries in large amounts, this steroid also increases sexual desire. Since your body already makes quite alot of cholesterol, theres no need to be eating any more. Avoid foods in high cholesterol at all costs. Try love instead of sexual desire What do i mean by love?
I mean loving everything about a person without feeling any sexual desire. The next time you look at your husband try to look at him, seeing and loving everything about him, without feeling any sexual desire. You will find that this emotion is more satisfying then sexual desire anyway, deeming sexual desire worthless. Avoid shows on TV about sex, or anything that arouses you. No need to make things harder on yourself. However, only do this for the first couple of months.
You need to be able to see these things without being sexually arroused eventually, otherwise that would mean you still have sexual desire.
So after doing all these things for a few months, try watching a sex scene without feeling anything or getting aroused. You will be forced to look at people that others would consider attractive. When these moments come, simply focus on not being arroused. These are all the things I can think of right now although im sure ive forgotten some.