Use these 8 oral sex techniques to get her there every time! According to most studies, only between 30 and 50 percent of women can achieve orgasm through penetration alone. Even of those who can, the ones who come consistently through sex might number a small percentage.
Read on to find out how to give it to her. This is the wrong way to approach going down on her. Get in there, get comfortable, and enjoy it. You should take pleasure in feeling her body tense up, in hearing her moan, and even in her taste and smell. Countless nerve endings are packed into one area. By design, the body has scent glands in the genitals just like in the armpits.
Your balls have the same thing. There should be no smell after washing. A stubble can be extremely irritating to her soft skin. Great oral sex starts well before your face find its way between her legs. Good foreplay, done right is key to getting her warmed up and ready. Women are more like a rocket launch, a complex set of systems activated in the right order, and eventually turned on.
Diving straight in, especially with dry fingers can be quite painful to a woman. Foreplay will bring some natural lubrication to her vagina, and establish a trusting mood. Work your way slowly down her body paying close attention to her breasts. After kissing her inner thighs, give soft kisses on her outer lips. Reach one arm under her leg and around over her stomach. Let it rest on her pubic hair. Part her outer lips with your tongue to expose the inner lips, and kiss them softly.
By now they should be wet, or at least, moist. Slide your tongue over them up one side and down the other a few times, and suck very gently on the sides of the lips.
If you think of the lips as forming a long, vertical ellipse, the inside of this is what you should focus on next. As a reference, just above this ellipse, tucked into its hood is the clitoris.
Push your tongue gently against the bottom of the ellipse, just above the perineum. Keeping light pressure against her, slowly run your tongue up to the top, making sure to stop before you reach the clitoris. Do the same from top to bottom, letting your tongue linger at the points, pushing against them with minimal pressure.
Repeat, mixing in a few kisses, and a few more sucks on the sides of her lips. In the bottom third of the ellipse is the vaginal entrance. Push the tip of your tongue slightly inside. The walls of the vaginal opening are extremely sensitive, always approach them slowly and gently. The tip of your tongue, being soft and wet, should give her a feeling of pleasure.
Mix the last few steps around for at least a minute or two. Foreplay done right — The art of really turning her on ] 5 Under the hood. Give a few more slow licks from above the perineum to just under the clitoris. Do this six times, then again but on the seventh, pull your tongue back before it reaches the clitoris.
The clitoris is all about rhythm, but at the start, giving a steady rhythm like this, then breaking it is a great tease.
You will feel her body push towards you trying to get the touch it was just becoming accustomed to. Repeat this for about a minute — six full licks followed by one lick that pulls away at the last second. Clitorises can vary greatly between women. Some are quite big, others tiny. As it becomes more stimulated, it will swell and become more prominent. With the hand you wrapped around her leg and placed on her stomach, pull back slightly on the skin just above the hood and the clitoris will become more exposed.
Some women like hard pressure applied with the tongue to the clitoris, while some need a lighter touch. Try different motions to see which ones she likes best. Up and down, and circles around the clitoris work best. Some women also like a side-to-side motion. Your tongue and jaw will get tired, at least until you are giving oral sex on a regular basis.
When you need a rest, take her clitoris between your lips and give it a mini-blowjob. This will drive her wild. Tell her you love doing it. Keep the rhythm, keep working her clitoris and she should be getting close to climax.
The above steps alone are often enough, but adding in fingers can help her, and enhance the orgasm. The clitoris is a bit like a small tree, with an immense underground root system. What you see is just a small part of it, the rest runs under the skin in a wishbone shape, down along both sides of the vagina, nearly to her anus.
While still tonguing her clitoris, push one finger slowly into her vagina. Leave it until she seems comfortable. Add a second finger, but note that for some women this might be uncomfortable. Your fingerprints should be facing up, and your fingers should be in as far as the second knuckle. Bend your fingers up until they touch the roof of her vagina. You should feel a soft, spongy area there — this is the G-spot.
And this should get her to climax. Giving great oral sex is the key to being a great lover, so get out there and try out these 8 tips and techniques. Liked what you just read? I'm a freelance writer dividing my time between the beaches of Thailand and my hometown of Chicago