Facebook Twitter It usually goes like this: The difference between being a player and your situation now The problem with men who fall in love with their best friend is their systematic tendency to set aside their own feelings, wants, and needs. Their first priority is making the lady happy, trying to never offend her. Rather than bringing them closer, in reality it is ruining their chances. That is a BIG difference! An Alpha man puts his needs first.
The first step to becoming more than friends is to create a barrier between you and her. This will require effort and may seem unnatural… But without this barrier, you will not be able to change the way she looks at you. Starting today, you have to become more remote, less accessible, less supportive. Stop the endless phone conversations, email exchanges, or text messages. Take back your emotional independence.
By always being there for your friend, you show her that her thoughts, moods and desires are more important than yours. A confident man is not desperate As you can see, your main asset is your confidence. Do not doubt that your change of attitude will be noticed.
The more you send her flirty pictures or tease her, the less serious you seem. In your mind, your friend is out of your league, too good for you, unattainable… But this point of view is exactly what makes it impossible for you to get the girl. She eats, she drinks, she goes to the bathroom. Stop always agreeing wholeheartedly with your best friend — by doing so, you are removing any intellectual challenge and destroying any possibility to develop that much-sought-after sexual tension. Passion is born of mystery, discovery, and the excitement of the unknown.
So being too emotionally close before the first signs of desire begin can diminish physical attraction. What a woman looks for in a lover, she does not want from a friend, and vice versa. The two are incompatible, so you have to choose one. Some find me vulgar, but a girl rarely gets wet just at the sight of her best friend. Your advantage is that you know this girl. So, you know exactly what she wants in a man. The basics of seduction always work!
As with any other girl, you have to create the right conditions to attract your friend. Of these conditions, physical contact is a necessity. Some signs will clearly demonstrate your intentions. Take her hand, put your fingers on her neck, her thighs not too high, of course , her feet… You have to make her understand that in your mind, you are ready to go further. What you need is to develop the sensuality of the moment. Physical contact influences the subconscious. The moment of truth… How to seduce your best friend?
Invite her to have dinner with you one-on-one. There is still some mystery! Soon, the time comes to reveal your hand and officially come out of your shell. That makes you look like a manipulator who first sought to gain her trust before revealing his true intentions.
Be totally honest about your perspective. Take another look at the first half of this article if you still have doubts. You already know that your best friend likes you, otherwise you would not be so close.
You no longer have to prove anything, just to confess. Your candidness and your honesty will make all the difference: What would be unforgivable, however, is to hide your desires, your feelings.
That would go against your nature, prevent your personal growth, and show a lack of self-respect. But not telling her would be betraying yourself. The relationship you had before was based on a lie, a deception. Why go this route?
The chances of that are actually pretty slim. If your relationship is strong enough, it is more than possible that your friend will realize that she misses you, that she needs you around. So even if it seems like all is lost, you might be on the verge of a beautiful love story!