Why am I crying during sex? February 3, 2: But with this guy, I do. What's this all about? Divorced for 6 years had been married for 18 , completely non-sexual for over 7.
With ex-husband and maybe 10 partners before him , I kind of enjoyed sex but it never, ever felt like an expression of emotion; it was more of a release. I've been dating this guy for about 3 months and since the first time together, it feels different. Most of the moves are the same as everyone else I've been with except for this: But when I do, I get completely choked up, such is the overwhelming rush of emotion I get.
And postscript, the sex itself is just completely, insanely hot. We both feel really comfortable and open. After a post-sex conversation recently, he said that making love with me is completely exciting and fun and all that, but he feels very connected.
It feels special and new and all of that glowy "I think I love you" stuff. And this is new for me. So tell me, does this kind of overwhelming rush of I almost want to tell him I love him What does this mean? I really like it, but, it's new. When I started on the pill I went totally emotionally overwhelmed on my boy for like a week before the chemicals sorta evened out. It sounds like you and he are both comfortable with each other so why worry?
He was, incidentally, also the first sexual partner I had that I actually communicated with about sex. To postpone, just for a second, whatever I'm thinking about, and look at her. And when I do, I feel This, to me, is very different, and far more intimate, than feeling desired.
And these moments are what living is for. You're letting him see you at your most vulnerable, and that's an uncomfortable and powerful feeling. If he doesn't want you to look away, you can't really escape from the feeling, and it builds to the point of being overwhelming.
I've felt that way with someone, but later I decided that the feeling wasn't love so much as a deep bond of trust that was forming. I hadn't experienced anything like it before, and it really was frightening.
Which doesn't deny good communication and an openness between you; arguably if you didn't feel that way, looking each other in the eyes might derail things rather than enhancing things. Yes, it's normal--like diamonds are normal--but rare and precious. Don't take it for granted. Not with anyone in between. Hard to explain but I am sure it is normal. Though it isn't something that happened every time.
Once in a while I likened it to tears of joy for being so close to someone that i loved so much. The release of being able to be that open with someone is very moving. Sometimes if you're especially emotionally connected during sex, it can also feel like you're emotionally NAKED, so whatever fleeting emotion bobs to the surface just shoots straight out.
Especially so if you're feeling really emotionally close to someone after years of "not stellar. My hunch is that in time it'll lessen a bit; fogonlittlecatfeet also has it that it's tears of joy. I've gotten that a few times as well, as well as getting sex-induced giggle fits and all sorts of other things.
Being able to be vulnerable and have someone WANT you to be that way is pretty intense. It is what makes all the difference IMO.