Women today have less time for sex than their s counterparts. A regular sex life is good for your health. It can satisfy all sorts of emotional- and physical-intimacy needs and help partners stay close, says Anita H. Women, Sex, and the Quest for Intimacy.
So why the dry spell? You can chalk it up to a sheer lack of time, but there are a slew of other reasons, too—from weight gain and perimenopause to technology overload stop texting now in the bedroom. The bed should be used for sex and sleep only. All that technology and distraction can cause insomnia and put a damper on your sex life. At a minimum, make the bedroom a no-technology zone, Clayton suggests. Then take a hard look at your life from romance and work to entertainment and family , and give sex the priority it deserves.
If you have to schedule sex like you do a meeting, do it! You start taking oral contraceptives OCs so you can have worry-free sex. Then the magic little pills start sapping your sex drive. SHBG can trap testosterone, affecting your sex drive. Other potential sex-drive-stalling meds: Ask your doc about the sexual side effects of all of your drugs. Advertisement 4 of 11 Your crazy-busy life You spend your days working, cooking, working out, taking care of the family.
And, still, at Put a lock on the master bedroom door and set a technology time limit. Plunging into warm water takes you away from the laptops and cell phones that clog up your day. Add a few drops of ylang-ylang essential oil; the aroma is thought to heighten sexual feelings.
The message is, you have to look a certain way in order to have really good sex. Feel free to ask him what he likes about your body; his compliments can help you feel more positive. In a recent Health. In fact, even a five-pound weight loss has been shown to jump-start sex drive. Sensitive vaginal tissues become less lubricated, the ensuing dryness leads to pain, and painful sex quickly turns into no sex.
Talk to your physician about the pros and cons of hormone replacement therapy HRT , which may lessen menopausal symptoms. New research shows an estrogen cream or suppository may ease dryness without the risks of HRT.
Lubricants can also help, especially if pain during intercourse is a problem.