Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. She's dissatisfied with the relationship. For many women, sexual desire is directly linked to how they're feeling about the relationship. Sex may be painful for her. With age comes wisdom If sex is painful or uncomfortable for your wife, it makes sense that intimacy has gotten the short shrift, said Elizabeth McGrath, a sex therapist and educator who works in the Bay Area.
McGrath also said to remember to take things slow: You're letting days go by without touching. Sex is about so much more than just, well, sex.
It's the slow buildup, the kiss you exchange at the beginning of the day. It's prioritizing touch to show your spouse the attraction is as strong as ever, Nelson said. She's grown a little bored with you. When your spouse looks at you today, does she still see the interesting, compelling guy she fell in love with -- or have you lost some of your luster?
To "get back some of what made you alluring in the first place," explore your personal interests and reconnect with the person you are outside of your marriage, she said. Sex has become routine. Over time, your sex life may have gone from hot to humdrum. Most of all have fun; it's OK to giggle and tease each other. Allowing yourself to let go and enjoy the moment and the person you're sharing it with can be intimate and sexy.
She's not feeling emotionally connected. Instead of dwelling on your lackluster sex life, focus a little more on the emotional connection you share with your wife, Nelson said. This is true for men, too," she said. Repeat it back so you are sure you got it before moving on to the next one.