Those were the ages of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore when the couple tied the knot last year, making their highly publicized May-December romance official. But even though their older woman-younger man relationship may be among the world's most visible, it's not that unusual anymore. Braving "robbing the cradle" jokes, almost one-third of women between ages 40 and 69 are dating younger men defined as 10 or more years younger. According to a recent AARP poll, one-sixth of women in their 50s, in fact, prefer men in their 40s.
It's not what you think -- the stamina or "re-boot" ability of the younger male. The women like the flexibility and sense of adventure of their more spontaneous, younger companions, Tina B. For their part, the men like the sophistication and life success of their older mates, she explains. The much touted idea that women peak sexually in their 30s and men in their teens does not enter into it -- most of these couples are beyond both those age periods.
Other Reasons Behind This Trend According to Tessina, other reasons underlying this expansion of everyone's dating choices include: Older women are looking better every day, thanks to creative medical advances and a gym on every corner. Women are more likely to come back on the dating market because of divorce and a longer expected life span. Not as many women are looking for the picket fence and two cars.
Now companionship, travel, and fun are coming to the forefront. Women may also want a man with a less-developed career who could follow her or take care of children, if that is a factor. For their part, younger men often find older women more interesting, experimental, fun to talk to, financially settled, and more adept sexually. But what about the notion that men are "hard-wired" to seek a smooth-faced, curvy receptacle for reproduction and thus are drawn to younger women?
You can override a lot of biology in pursuit of other goals. We think we should only weigh We should marry people within two years of our age. We pathologize anything that isn't within those shoulds. If the voltages are different, one becomes the pursuer and one the distancer. This can create pain. New Options for Love and Romance. She has been in several relationships with men up to 20 years younger than herself. She works out a lot by her own admission and judging by her track record in this department and often meets partners at the gym, not the bars.
Winter tells WebMD that she and her co-author interviewed more than couples for their book. Though hardly a scientific study, the research surfaced three myths such couples hear every time: The average length of the relationships was 13 years. Guys in their 30s get her vote. Such men at least the ones interested in older women are stable and mature. They don't want to be mothered.
They want a woman who knows who she is. Cunningham, PhD, psychologist, University of Louisville.