E-mail Most men have fantasized about it, and most women have been propositioned for it: The forbidden turns into a night of double the pleasure, double the fun. But should the fantasy of a threesome become a reality? There are risks and benefits for singles, as well.
Sex And The Media: The media can display casual sex and sexuality with no consequences, which may change the way we think about them, including threesomes. In a study published in the Journal of Undergraduate Research, researchers examined the relationship between TV viewing and sexual attitudes and perceptions.
Students from a public Midwestern university completed three primary measures: Half of the participants completed the measures after waiting in a room while viewing sexually explicit music videos, and half waited with no TV present. Those exposed to sexually explicit videos before responding to the sexual scenarios rated these scenarios as less sexual than those not exposed to the videos.
In other words, being exposed to sexually explicit content had a priming effect. Daytime and nighttime television can also act in a similar way. Soap operas tend to have more sexual content than prime time programs, but they portray the types of intimacies differently.
They tend to show more intimate moments, whereas prime time programs generally imply the sexual content, like threesomes. The women attempt to escalate things when Ted comes down with a case of nerves, and tries to end things abruptly. He enters his bedroom where Barney is, and gets sympathy from him. By the time he leaves the bedroom, the girls appear to be gone, until he hears giggling coming from the other room.
Ted peers in and enters with a smile on his face. On the show, the prospect of a threesome was portrayed as the Holy Grail every man should strive to conquer. She believes society encourages men to explore their sexuality; of course within socially accepted boundaries.
Moreover, Ayana expressed that heteronormative men are less likely to participate in a threesome that involves two men and one women since the idea may be perceived as homosexual ideation, or sexual behavior.
Straight men would need to overcome their discomfort with other naked men and strains of disgust in our culture that remain over homosexuality. Three women lying on the grass. Photo courtesy of Pexels, Public Domain So, why are we so intrigued by threesomes when at least two of the same gender must participate?
The Object Of Simultaneous Desire The idea of being simultaneously loved and adored by two males, two females, or a male and a female grouping may be exciting for some. Threesomes present a way for women and men to be wanted by more than one person, and be "center stage. The idea that someone or a couple would consider the third party worthy enough for a salacious encounter can be an ego boost. The psychological allure of threesomes, especially for men, could be driven by a biological urge.
The idea of being with two women at the same time is intriguing because it represents twice the number of body parts to enjoy sexually. Women When it comes to mating, women look beyond just an alpha male. The criteria for a woman to sexually desire a man includes strength, health, and fighting ability. Women may be less likely to engage in a threesome because subconsciously, they do not see any benefit. A male-female-female scenario reduces her chances of procreating with a male.
A woman plans, examines her choices, and makes conscious decisions about her sex life — for the most part. Men Men and women both dig the concept of a threesome, but whether they engage in it or not is different, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Archives. Researchers noted 82 percent of men and 31 percent of women were interested in a threesome.
However, compared to women, men reported significantly more positive attitudes and greater interest in mixed-gender threesomes. Men prefer to know the person who would join them, and their partner, whereas women only cared whether they knew the other two people if they were the third party to join a couple.
Three friends hanging out together. Photo courtesy of Pexels, Public Domain "The fact that attitudes and interests were more strongly correlated with each other than with behavior is in keeping with research that has documented a discrepancy between sexual attitudes and beliefs and sexual behavior," wrote the study authors. A similar study in the Journal of Bisexuality found regardless of the proposed relationship type, very few women showed interest in having a threesome with two men if given the opportunity.
Unsurprisingly, men leapt at the opportunity to have a threesome with two women, although this desire was lower for both dating and committed relationship partners. In this scenario, women were also less enthused, because it does not have the same appeal to a straight woman as it does to a straight man, beyond the excitement that comes with group sex. The researchers did find the results were similar when participants were asked how arousing they found the fantasy of a threesome with two opposite-sex partners.
The Trouble With Threesomes Health Risks Sex between two people can provide a host of infections and diseases; sex among three people triples those odds. A threesome is riskier than sex in a mutually monogamous, long-term relationship where both people have been tested. For example, if you touch one person, and you get fluids on you, and you touch the other person, fluids have been exchanged. Barriers for all sexual activities can go overlooked in threesomes; all partners should use a new barrier every time they switch sexual acts.
If one person goes from intercourse to fellatio, or vice versa, you change condoms. You also need to change condoms if you move from penetrating one partner to penetrating another.
You need to pick up a new dental dam when performing oral sex on someone new. Women are more likely to be aware and concerned about the potential emotional pitfalls and hurts that can be detrimental to all relationships. This is why couples should discuss their physical and emotional limits before the third person becomes involved.
Finally, remember that the "special guest" is a person, too. They need to be treated with respect. It's important to ask them about, and listen to, their limits as well.
As with any other sexual experience, everyone needs to feel safe and comfortable enough to say no as well as yes. The threesome fantasy is a common one, whether we like to admit it or not, but should we act it out?
If we fantasize about sex with a neighbor or a colleague, acting out the fantasy could lead to rejection from the object of our fantasies, and a break-up with our significant other. Those who really know themselves and their partners can have successful trios. The potential vulnerability it introduces, and the potential desire for the third person could be detrimental to a relationship. Before we start calling up friends, or putting "Special guest wanted" in classified ads, we should ask ourselves why we want one in the first place.
To fulfill a fantasy? To feel more desired or wanted? Are we trying to fix our intimate relationship with our partner? Threesomes can be a fun, adventurous sexual experiment, but can they replace true intimacy between two people?