Few philosophers have explored the topic with the necessary rigour. It has to do with loneliness and self-disgust. Then gradually comes the fall. The nipple is taken away.
We grow ashamed of our nakedness. Ever-expanding areas of our outer selves are forbidden to be touched by others. We become adults, expelled from paradise, unappealing to almost everyone we walk past. But deep inside, we never quite forget the needs with which we were born: Hence the significance of oral sex. But with the right person, at the precise juncture where disgust could be at its height, we feel only acceptance, welcome and permission.
The privileged nature of a relationship is sealed by an act which, with someone else, would have been sickening. Normal life continually requires us to be polite. We cannot both be accepted by society and reveal who we really are.
The bond of loyalty between a couple grows stronger with every increase in explicitness. The more unacceptable our behaviour would be to the larger world, the more we feel as if we are building a haven of mutual acceptance. Sex liberates us for a time from that punishing dichotomy between dirty and clean. It literally purifies us — by engaging the most apparently polluted sides of ourselves in its games.
We can press our mouths, the most public and respectable aspects of our faces, the seat of language and articulacy, eagerly into the most contaminated parts of the other — thereby symbolising a total psychological approval, much as a priest would accept a penitent, guilty of many transgressions, back in the fold of the Catholic Church with a light kiss on the head.
From a psychological point of view, very similar to oral sex The pleasure of oral sex is hence deeply rich and significant. Relationships The Meaning of Infidelity Infidelity is commonly interpreted as close to the greatest tragedy that could befall any relationship — and as the natural, inevitable prelude to the break-up of a union. It is viewed… chapter 3. Relationships The Poignancy of Old Pornography People have been making pornography for a very long time. But a… chapter 3.
Relationships The Psychology of Cross-Dressing Cross-dressing and here we refer particularly to men dressing up as women could hardly have a worse reputation.