On this page we give you some ideas about the sex positions you might like to try during your early sexual explorations. Positions advice - mostly for men Why would it matter how you get it together?
Well, young men don't generally last very long. They're too horny and over-aroused. Sure, provided your partner's willing, you can always have a second go, but premature ejaculation - or even just quick ejaculation - is often just as quick second time around.
If you want to give your partner pleasure, then you might want to try the positions where you last the longest. But there are other factors too. First, some sex positions are harder to get into than others. If you're not that confident anyway, trying to maneuver yourself into a twisted figure of 8 while keeping your penis from popping out of your girl's vagina may not be the easiest thing in the world. Second, during sex you'll pop faster in some positions than others.
Of course, if you have an understanding girlfriend, this may not matter, but if you want to be a good lover, and develop your skills, you can - for most of the time, anyway - stick to the less arousing sex positions. That way, you'll last a bit longer. For example, rear entry is an arousing and exciting position, notorious for making men come fast.
You look down on your partner's rear end as your penis enters and leaves her body Third, your partner may not be very experienced herself, and she might want you to take the lead as she learns more about sex. If you choose the easier positions, you'll take a bit of pressure off yourself. Fourth, you might actually prefer sex in the simpler, easier positions. Being able to fuck in the harder-to-get-into, acrobatic ones is often not the mark of a good lover but of someone who's not bothered to find out how to get pleasure from simpler ways of making love, and thinks that trying something complicated will make sex better.
That's not true - good sex is based on intimacy, love and caring for your partner, not technical ability. Still, enough of that. Which are the good positions? Man on top sex positions The oldest and still the best position for sex! Your girl lies on her back, with her legs apart, and you lie on top, supporting yourself on your knees and elbows she may actually like to feel your weight resting on her, but don't assume that without asking her.
She won't thank you for squashing her! You're most likely to have your legs between hers; she can rest her feet on your calves or bring her legs higher up you back if she wants - though that's usually easiest after you've completed your initial docking maneuver.
If you're not experienced at getting your cock into a woman's pussy, admit it and ask her to guide you in with her hand. Don't just peck ineffectually around the entrance to her vagina with your knob! It may be a bit easier if she raises her hips by resting her butt on a pillow, but generally speaking, getting into her pussy isn't hard in this position.
Make sure you have enough lube on the condom, or if you're not using one, on your penis. Saliva is always a good stand-by. Woman on top sex positions Another easy one, but it does need some confidence on your partner's part. You might say, well, what's to be confident about? The answer is she may be a bit self-conscious with her body exposed to your eager eyes especially if she has some issues with the size or shape of her breasts or body , or she simply may not know what to do.
So you, the man, start by laying on your back, and work up an erection if you're not already hard. Maybe this is a good time to try a spot of fellatio she sucks and licks your cock or "69" she sucks you as you lick her pussy - she'll be kneeling over you, her ass towards you and her face in your groin. However you do it, once you're hard, have her sit on you, facing you, holding your penis and guiding it into herself as she slowly descends onto you.
The great advantage is that she can control the speed at which your penis penetrates her, so if she's not confident, that may help her feel like she's the one who's in charge. What happens next is up to you. Obviously the idea is to have her ride you, either by moving her hips in a circular pattern or by raising and lowering herself up and down your penis.
Take it slowly and she'll soon get the idea! Sex positions advice - mostly for women If you're in the happy position of having sex for the first time, it can be a bit overwhelming. Have you made the right choice? Are you happy to lose your virginity to this man? Does he love and respect you?
How do you make it good for both of you? The first few questions are ones for you to think about. Only you know when you're ready to give it up; it's something to think carefully about because you can only do once in a lifetime. This may be important to you, it may not. But don't have sex just because you feel under pressure, for it's a big step.
If you're not used to men, and perhaps a little inexperienced with penises, don't worry. Just treat it as he treats it and you'll be fine. It's a bit of an exaggeration, but not much, to say that no matter what you do to his penis, he'll like it.
But he'll certainly like it most if it's in your mouth or pussy. If he's new to sex, he's likely to ejaculate quite quickly, so make sure you've had your orgasm before he enters you. He can give you cunnilingus or you can show him how you like to masturbate so he knows how to get you off.
If you want to be in control the first time you have sex, woman on top is the position for you. You can slide down onto his penis at a speed that suits you. If you'd rather let him take the lead, then man on top would be a better choice. Remember that even when you enjoy man on top sex, you're not meant to lie there passively, doing nothing. You can take an active part in sex by moving your hips and pelvis, altering the position of your legs, and even thrusting your hips back and forth.
If you know how to clench your vaginal muscles, you can give both of you extra pleasure. It's also worth remembering that he may make a lot of noise when he comes - if you're already used to people making enough noise to startle the neighbors during sex, this may not bother you. If you're a quiet comer, maybe you could learn to copy his example! Confidence breeds confidence, and nowhere is this so true as in the field of interpersonal relationships and especially sex.
You have to start somewhere - if it's all too scary, you're never going to get laid. So start with the assumption that you can do it - just as many other men have done it before you; and remember that for every shy man there is a shy woman, just waiting for the right man to come along and enjoy finding out what it's like to have sex, be intimate, and be in a relationship.
And you don't have to start out with the advanced stuff - you're not aiming to be an amazing lover, just a basically satisfactory, fun guy to be with in bed, one who knows a thing or two.
First and foremost, it's an obvious truth that women and men like different things in bed. Men like a quick orgasm, women like romance and lots of gentle, sensuous stimulation leading up to full sex. But here's the surprise - men can grow to like that too! And as a man you'll enjoy being in a position where you can do that stuff for a woman. It's part of the man's role to give his partner sexual satisfaction - and though a lot of women might argue with that statement, even in today's world, where women are supposedly sexually confident and liberated, it still holds true for a lot of people a lot of the time.
In any event, while you don't own her orgasm or her sexual pleasure, you're a big part of it! And being a good lover - which means being generous and working to please your partner - can make you, as a man, feel good about yourself. So - develop a giving attitude. In response, she's going to do as much as she can to see that you have a good time! It's very important to a woman to know that her man fancies her, and wants to romance her and make love to her; in addition, a woman likes to be told that a man has enjoyed making love with her.
By the way, a woman who cares about her man will always want sex to be good for him, and since that mostly depends on how aroused she is, you have a good reason to spend time on foreplay! Second, a woman usually takes longer to get aroused and be ready for penetrative sex than a man between ten and twenty times as long, in fact - so think twenty minutes, not two , but once she is aroused, she may want to continue with sex after her first orgasm.
That can be true for men as well, especially in their twenties and thirties, but it's also true that men usually need at least some recovery time between one orgasm and the next, and this is often not so for a woman. However, you need to find out the nature of your partner's sexual preferences - if her first orgasm is big and powerful enough, she may be satisfied to stop there.
Third, you learned early on what you like and don't like about having your penis held and stimulated, but you may be surprised to find that a woman's preferred stimulation changes from day to day and even within one session of lovemaking.
She may tell you to do something one day, and you find it brings her to orgasm easily; the next time you make love you may find she says that she doesn't like it when you do the same thing. Puzzling, for sure, until you understand that a woman's sexual response is much more in the moment that a man's. She may not, for example, even know if she wants to have an orgasm before you start making love. So while you're busy playing with her clitoris, she may suddenly tell you to stop and say that she wants you inside her.
It's not that you're doing anything wrong; it's just that a woman's sexual awareness develops during lovemaking. So how do you deal with all this? Not by having a terrific knowledge of sexual positions and techniques, that's for sure. No, you simply pay attention to what is going on in bed, to the signals and signs that she is giving you, the signs that will help you decide what to do next.
And you also take it slowly. If you just want to get on her and jump her bones, she may co-operate, but she won't like it and the chances are you'll feel bad about it too, unless you're completely selfish , and the truth is she'll do nothing to make you feel better next time - in or out of bed.
After all, if you can't be bothered to meet her needs, why should she meet yours? Start with kissing and fondling. You probably already know how to do that, which is good, since it gives you something to work at before you move on to more serious matters. So, when your clothes come off, you can still carry on kissing and cuddling You can kiss her all over, dry kissing, sensitively brushing her body with your lips and perhaps your tongue - though she may not appreciate being covered in saliva.
And think of her body as an all-over sex organ, a sensitive surface which can come alive with the delicacy of your touch. But don't be ineffectual - women like a man who shows some strength and focus: