So you want to set the mood for a sexy evening of seduction. Congrats, if you're thinking about purchasing and lighting candles to set the scene, you're absolutely on the right track.
They transport us away from modern life, filled with harsh fluorescent office light and the annoyance of electricity bills and return us to our primal, animalistic nature thanks to the interplay between scent and attraction. You're allowed, no, scratch that — supposed to be a gentlemanly animal in bed. Read on to learn how to create an evening that will be so memorable you'll be tempted to tell your grandchildren about it.
Why Candles Are Sexy Along with stirring something inside of us that we may not fully understand, candles come with many tricks to create the ultimate night of lovemaking.
Scented candles bring in the sense of smell, which is highly sensual, to the bedroom. Whatever scent you choose should best reflect your relationship and desires. Rose-scented candles will always be ideal for romance and work wonderfully paired with the gift of a bouquet.
If you want to role play masseuse and relax your lover after hard day's work, opt for something subtler, such as a lavender scent. Are you in a relationship that celebrates hedonism? Forget traditional scents and opt for champagne, whiskey, or even a cannabis-scented candle to match your favorite method of elevation. Of course, candles can be kinky as well as romantic. Some candles created by sex toy purveyors melt into massage oil as the wax burns.
Others are made to burn at the ideal temperature for wax play so that you can drizzle hot wax along your lover's body and vice versa while only providing the most delicious kind of pain. There are even candles that float to make a shared bath even more romantic. Regardless of your desired mood, there's a candle for you. To create a majestically and romantic gesture straight out of your girlfriend or wife's favorite television show, you can line your bedroom with small and affordable simple white tea lights as a surprise.
Or, if there's a specific mood you want to set, from romantic, to relaxing, to kinky, opt for one larger high-quality candle. To add an extra element of passion, give the singular candle to your partner as a gift over dinner; it will act as foreplay for the candle-lit lovemaking to come.
To pick the perfect candle to match your desires, first, meditate on the atmosphere you wish to create. It is your night of primal sex, after all. Avoid anything with a cheap and overwhelming scent, which is usually what you get if you just grab a candle from your local drugstore.
While from clean cotton to champagne, everyone enjoys different smells, I'd avoid anything too unusual, such as pumpkin or a Christmas-cookie scented candle unless it's that time of year and you're roleplaying a Santa-and-his-elf scene, no judgement. Couple the classy pomegranate-scented candle with a bouquet of rich red roses for your next anniversary or simply to surprise your lover, and then light it to celebrate it.
The pomegranate fruit is associated with love and fertility in many traditions, which makes the scent ideal for lovemaking so if you're superstitious and not looking to procreate, wrap it up. However, this candle burns at a lower temperature than most. Don't worry; it will still drip hot wax on erogenous zones such as your partner's stomach and nipples, you can just relax knowing you'll only cause the good kind of pain.
This candle is also made with hints of sage and vanilla, two other scents ideal for creating a calming atmosphere. After your woman has had a long stressful day at work, light this gem and treat her to a massage. Start with her shoulders and then feel free to move down the body until the massage turns erotic. Perhaps you and your lady associate steamy sex with whiskey rather than floral arrangements.
This whiskey-scented sex candle created by JimmyJane, maker of high-end sex toys, comes with a secret: When the wax melts, it turns into massage oil. Enjoy your favorite bourbon together neat or on the rocks as the candle burns filling the room with the scent of your poison, and then use the massage oil to do all sorts of delicious things to one another.
These affordable floating candles will up the ante on whatever underwater sex adventures you have planned. Turn off all harsh lighting and surprise your girlfriend or wife by lighting these in the bath or pool, if you're lucky enough to own one and then get in and make out while they bob around you providing perfect sex lighting.
Crack open the tin on this pink prosecco-scented candle as you pop open a bottle of matching actual prosecco. The lavish candle made by Voluspa comes with two wicks, one for each of you, signifying partnership, and screaming sex.
It's molded in a traditional candle jar and laced with the scent of roses paired with black currant leaves. If you do want to go in on a grand gesture, sprinkle the bed with rose petals of the color of your choice in addition to lighting this classic.
Cannabis, which is becoming more legal in America by the day, can enhance intimacy between couples by reducing our negative thinking, some studies suggest. And let's just be real for a second: If you're a man who lives with roommates or perhaps hasn't had a chance to clean your room yet but still wants a lovely night with a lady, lighting this classic scent of clean cotton will do the trick of banishing bad odor in exchange for a crisp scent but at some point, you should actually clean up rather than simply shove everything under your bed when you bring someone home.
This one requires a little planning, as you'll be lighting more than one wick. You may want to bring in a friend's assistance to set up while you're out to dinner beforehand, but ideally, you'll swing open the door to your bedroom or home, and the place will be lined with rows upon rows of small flickering light. It's a scene straight out a movie for a reason; you can't go wrong with this just review fire safety and be mindful not to burn the place down.