Schwartz Jun 17, Question: They were with each other for 5 years. Schwartz responds to questions about psychotherapy and mental health problems, from the perspective of his training in clinical psychology.
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Do not stop your medication or change the dose of your medication without first consulting with your physician. To be honest, I cannot understand it either.
I do know that you are not alone with this problem. Some people actually keep in touch with their ex lovers through facebook, telephone and even meeting together.
What you need to understand is that there is nothing wrong with you. Everyone has past relationships. However, for lovers to feel confidence and trust in one another, they need to know that the past is over and done. How can you feel confident about your boyfriend if he holds onto photos of his ex girlfriend? Sometimes people keep old photos or maintain contact with their ex because they are unhappy with their present lover. There is an old saying that you should never get involved with someone who is rebounding from a failed relationship.
Other times, people cannot let go of the feelings they had for their previous lover. This does not bode well for the success of the next relationship. Painful as this might be, you may have to give your boyfriend the choice of you or the pictures.
I doubt that you will ever look back on the photos in the future with a laugh.