Saturday, April 23, Suzi Godson Suzi Godson gives advice on what positions are best when a men is well endowed. Are there any positions you would recommend to help us, or any exercises we could try?
You have asked a straightforward question and you deserve a straightforward answer. Penis size is a male fascination but as your problem illustrates, when it comes to sex, bigger is not always better.
The average erection extends to about cm 5. In a relaxed state, the average vagina is about 7. When a male erection is substantially larger than average it knocks against the female cervix during intercourse and this can be very painful.
Because the vagina expands only if a woman is turned on, and anxiety inhibits arousal, once a woman begins to connect intercourse with discomfort, it can take time for her to unlearn the association so she can relax enough to enjoy sex. To get things back on track, you will need to take things very slowly, and the simplest way of fixing this problem is to spend time making your girlfriend very aroused.
Additional lubrication is never a substitute for actual arousal but it can be a really helpful addition when size is an issue. Silicone lubricants tend to be better at reducing friction which is an advantage in this context. Certain positions can make penetration less challenging without compromising enjoyment.
Generally, positions that are not face-to-face are the easiest way to optimise pleasure while limiting penetrative depth. For example, if you lie back on the bed and your girlfriend lies with her back along your chest, the sensation of her thighs will make it feel as if you are fully inserted.
This position can be reversed, with your girlfriend lying face down on her tummy. With standing positions the depth of penetration will be naturally limited but you do need to be at a similar height. Traditional positions such as missionary encourage deeper penetration but your girlfriend can limit depth by squeezing her legs together. Alternatively, she can keep her hand on the top of your shaft throughout.
In fact, it is an incredibly simple idea. However, remember that the more aroused your girlfriend is, the less of a problem this will become — so the most important thing for you to do is take your time.