Please fill out an application here! This had always confused me a lot, as love would seem like a more important one. Love allows you to want to give to others and make them happier. Love allows you to become selfless and work for the common good of humanity. It seemed like a far more noble emotion! As I thought about this, I am reminded of something my girlfriend had said a while back: When you absolutely need something, you begin to change yourself to make it work.
Every day, we are reminded of this need as we get turned on by various stimuli. And it is a need. We are biologically programmed to want it. We need it to create babies. We need it to get a real sense of closeness. In fact, the human race need to have sex in order to survive!
So why did nature build this innate need into us? Why do we have to go through this hassle just to survive? As I sought an answer to this question, my mind drifted to memories of myself a few years ago. I was nearing the end of college, working hard in hopes of finding a good job.
Most of my time was spent in a computer lab plugging away on various projects. I loved my work and the people I was doing it for. My position required no real need for other people, so this worked just fine. There was no real desire to consider their feelings or what they wanted. Fast forward a year when my desire for sex and reproduction took over.
I wanted to date people and get to know them better. And that is exactly what sex does! It drives you to start understanding the perspectives of other people. Because there is something you want badly that somebody else has, you are forced to listen to what they want! You are obligated to try to understand their perspective. You have to give other people an incentive to give you want you want, and you can only do that by learning about what they want!
If we were all asexual beings, there would be no need for other people. There would be no driving force for people to cooperate and work together! We can just go about our day never understanding the ways we can help each other.
It is no wonder that Napolean Hill claims sex to be the most important emotion! As we learn about the opposite sex, we learn more about people in general. We learn that people are different, and then learn to appreciate those differences. We learn that two people together can be greater than the sum of their parts! Because of this, we can see why Hill would think sex is a much more important emotion than love.
Sure, love allows you contribute positively to society, but only sex gives you the desire to learn about the other person. It makes you learn about what you should be giving, and forces you to adapt to fill that role.
And giving everything you have is precisely what tends to make human relationships work well! We need sex to reproduce and survive as a species. Those who are unable to do that are people who will be unable to find a mate!
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