By Ally Sabatina Virginity stories are tired. What we know now holds not one candle to what we thought we knew when we were young, poorly dressed, over-accessorized, lacking in social media presence and sexual experience. We think everyone is having more and better sex than us. Most of the time the sex we are having is nothing to write home about—a dance routine, an activity to divert attention from the now boring television program, just something to do.
What about the times where sex was good? What about the times you wanted to organize brunch immediately just to gab you know, brag to your friends about the seemingly endless and electric sex you are having … because you deserve it! What about the times everything seemed to fit together just right?
What about the times they nibbled on your ear and did the thing you always want them to do … just like that? I want to know about the shockingly good one night stands. I want to know about college partners turned life partners after some very good orgasms. I want to know about the affair that you never told anyone about. I want to know about the sad but orgasmic last time with a vivacious yet toxic partner.
I want some good stories! So I get what I want. Alyson, 21 With my first boyfriend, though neither of us had transitioned at the time yet. I want to mention that this was the first time after I realized I was a girl.
And like, I just was so in love with him at the time, and still am. And it started in my bed we were like making out and stuff. We got like really heavy into it n clothes started coming off. I wanna mention that this was like the first time after I realized I was a girl and he really fucked me in a way that made me feel feminine and adorable. It was the first time I made him cum? And the first time he came with someone else ever.
So I let him touch me there even tho I was a little dysphoric and it ended up being really affirming and hot like gender-wise. Kevin, 22 So, we had just come back from my birthday dinner. We had been dating for about a month and a half and unfortunately still had not had sex. Once getting back to his apartment we laid on his couch to watch a mindless TV show. We took a brief shower together to close out an eventful evening.
Once clean we transitioned to his bed where we began making out. Shortly after rubbing and body contact began. Eventually we reached the point of penetration where we were consumed with laughs and smiles. The whole experience was much more enjoyable with someone that I knew longer than previous hookups.
I could feel the anticipation leading up to the moment. At first I was worried and anxious about his expectation, my expectations and whether it would be good. Throughout the experience we shared laughs and feel much more comfortable as time progressed.
Olivia, 21 It was the day I got to Missouri for the first time to see my [long distance] boyfriend. Definitely a best time for the both of us. Totally a first for us both and it made a huge difference when it came to sex. We were dating for almost a year and [this experience] kinda sealed our relationship. But after a shower and some foreplay together it just slid in so easily. I think that it made us connect in a whole other level for our relationship.
Made it seem real and that we were actually connected in a very personal and intimate level now. I think the need for sex was very mutual at the time. Every move we made would just get better and better and it was almost overwhelming.
Brittany, 22 I met a guy at a party, had sex with him that night. He was charming enough to have me believe we were going to enter a long-term intimate relationship.
Going out on dates. Meeting all his friends. Inside information on his family life and personal life like how he was adopted. While it was good, it was really good for a week. Sex was more than an activity that people do, it was supposed to feel good. Katie, 26 I was 24, in my first committed relationship in my life, constantly being ecstatic and confused about how good a relationship could be. I was making moves in my artwork, starting to regularly perform and felt like I was being supported from so many people, but also going through a really tough friend break up.
It was with my current partner, 4 or 5 months after we had started dating. They were always silly around me, but I had just warmed up to them and let myself be stupid and silly and vulnerable around them.
It had never crossed my mind that you could actually giggle and goof around and have a blast while having sex. It was a combination of the three that night, cycling through. It would annoy me to no end but they would eventually figure out how secretly amused I was by the absurdity.
I would try to get them to quit by kissing them and we would both giggle and they would break into another joke, a new accent, and new bit. It continued through having sex, laying in bed after. I let myself play along instead of holding back finally. Cay, 21 I was 15, and he was the first guy to not treat me shitty.
We waited until his parents left the house at a playground on the swing set, but we could see where his parents would be leaving their road before we did it. My exposure to sex before that started with sexual abuse by a different boyfriend about a year before, and hypersexuality but never actual sex after that to try and prove myself in some sort of way. We had talked about it for about a week. V, 24 This first time was last year, so I was My partner and I were together in bed just being silly and playful.
To be honest, before this experience I thought I hated sex. This was the first time in my life I ever truly enjoyed sex or felt sexually satisfied. At the time, I was in the process of separating from my abusive ex husband and things were very difficult.
It just felt good. My partner is always very focused on meeting my needs, sexual and otherwise, and that was very clear in this best first time. I felt confident in my sexual ability, like I had done it right and I could feel that.
Sandra, 53 I was a freshman in college and had met the man I would eventually marry. Must say it was my first super orgasm. I say super because it was the intensity was just undeniably what it should be. It was just also effortless. I was with the first person I really cared about. So at the time it just encouraged me to have more of it!
I really wanted to talk to him and cuss him out, because I really wanted to be friends. So I went over, and it basically turned into us having a bottle of tequila. I finally confronted him about [how he treated me]. He ate my ass for what seemed like hours, and I thought my eyes would be spinning in my head forever. Then it led into some other kinks we never had talked about before, he just knew. I was getting smacked across the face while sucking him off, and his hands around my throat while getting fucked.
I realized some things while getting my ass eaten like a mango in summer. Marie, 21 Sex is almost always fun. Part of me feels like it will never be that good again.
I have only had sex a few times since. All times very sub par. Sara, 62 It was just before my 18th birthday. We split a quaalude and a joint and were fooling around. It was the first time a man had gone down on me. I also had a boyfriend who would go golfing with [my best friend]. We vowed never to tell him and we never did. Jen, 19 Very recently on a trip to Arizona to visit my boyfriend, we had been dating for a month.
Corey, 23 It was my fourth time seeing this person. It started we were gonna go in my car but we ended up in my bedroom. Just the way she touched me differently. It was more tender if you will.