How to use sex to make him fall in love The sex tips you need to make him fall in love. Oct 19, Whether you've just met or are worried it's all over, having the right sex can change your world According to Hollywood, all it takes to fall in love is one epic, mattress-wrecking sex session.
But can the way you have sex actually make a man fall uncontrollably in love with you? And will the way he touched your body leave you emotions totally out of control?
During sex, men and women release the bonding chemical oxytocin and the reward chemical dopamine - it's highly potent combination that not only makes you crave more sex, but actually ties that craving to your sexual partner. Cosmo discovers how you keep that heart-throbbing passion alive Sex when you've just met How do you create intimacy when you barely know each other and the only thing you currently bond over is a shared love of Gavin and Stacey?
That horrible feeling that you're more into this relationship than he is. Men don't form attachment through crazy sex; that's just chemical lust, which fades. The long they go without reward, the more they repeat attempts to get it - and repetition forges a strong connection. The longer you hold back from actual intercourse, the more the trust can build - and the more oxytocin gets released via all that lovely touching. So explore the unusual but not too freaky places; try the earlobes, the area between the belly button and the pubic bone and even his kidney area - a cheeky ancient Eastern trick that works the energy connection between the kidneys and the genitals, apparently.
When you do get around to the deed, keep it simple; the less there is to worry about, the more relaxed you'll be - and the more likely to reach orgasm. And if you want him to stick around, Jaiya suggest stroking him lightly all over post-orgasm to release more of that in-love chemical, oxytocin. Get him on his back. Lube up his penis and let him guide your hands to rub in to erection.
Hands-on-hands is intimate, as is sharing his masturbation technique. Swing a leg over and sit astride him. After orgasm, lie over him - arms on his arms, cheek on his chest. This position is a super-tease for him and the more skin-on-skin you have, the more oxytocin you release. Sex when you're in a long-term relationship A common mistake is thinking only spontaneity and experimentation will save things when the spark has faded. If it's planned, it's not the same, right?
It's a lack of shared pleasure. Married women 'nest' - again, meaning higher contentment and lower libido. It sounds unsexy but Dr Carole urges husbands and wives to plan one long sex session every week. Lots of foreplay before sex increases oxytocin levels and will reconnect you sensually, adds Jaiya.
Start with a shared bath. Get him to wash your hair or massage you with baby oil, then dress in something sexy. Take plenty of time for kissing and touching. Focus stimulation on the abdomen, too. Tantra experts call this the power centre, and say that stimulation it forges a connection between you and your 'masseur'. Get him to rub it in slow circles with one hand as he uses his fingers inside you. Always sleep naked, too, suggest Dr Carole, to keep low-level eroticism burning. Taking each other for granted also dissolves marriage ties - but this, too, can be fixed in the bedroom.
Tell your partner why you love what they're doing rather than simply saying you love it - this connects him to your pleasure eg, 'I love how you touch me there because you're so gentle'. After sex, Jaiya suggests trying tratak - gazing without blinking. Sit facing each other, you in his lap.
While he is inside you, both use your hands to massage and stroke each other's backs, necks, faces and chests. After lots of step 2, rock back and forth on his penis, pulling each other closer by the buttocks. Perfect for reconnecting marrieds and delivering full-body orgasms. When sex has become stale You're close but maybe you don't know where to go from there.
You're still having sex but it's just a bit If it's just about sex, desperately trying progressively wilder sex never works. If every Friday after work you meet for drinks, have dinner and then have sex, try having the sex first - then go out for cocktails.
So have sex minus one of your senses. For example, discuss your fantasies blindfold - it'll help you get rid of your inhibitions. Or wear earplugs - they make you focus on your bodily sensations plus hearing nothing but your own breathing is strangely arousing. Or try having sex in silence listening to each other's breath. Alternatively, get him to rub, hold or kiss areas of your body you dislike until you feel comfortable with it.
Experts agree that this is deeply intimate when experienced with a trusted partner and can unleash new, powerful erogenous zones. US research has shown that, chemically, a bit of a spank at this relationship stage actually bonds you. Finally, if you're nervous about suggesting something unusual, make it easier by including the word 'try'. Jaiya adds, "Afterwards, talk about what worked. This helps build intimacy in your communication - essential for making you feel closely bonded.
The downward doggy 1. Adopt the traditional doggy position but with your chest lower to the ground He kneels behind you and supports you by the waist. Bend your knees, feet against his lower back. Deepen trust and intimacy with high heels, or if you want, get him to tie your hands in front of you. Sex when you are worried it could be over "If you're feeling disconnected, sex might be the last thing you fancy, but it can often be the thing that heals your bond," reveals Susan.
According to Susan, watching a horror movie us the perfect foreplay. The scary film stimulates dopamine and the snuggling up releases the oxytocin," she explains. Sounds strange but we rarely hug for that long. Before sex, lie down together and synchronise your breathing so you inhale and exhale simultaneously. Tantric practitioners regard this as a deeply healing and connecting exercise. During sex, try to exhale as he inhales and vice versa, which again powerfully aligns you, mentally and physically.
Have sex, fingers entwined or with hands placed on each other's chests there are powerful erogenous zones on the palms. This is a massive chemical bonding tool and research shoes it's one of the first things to go when a relationship falls apart, so don't let it drop from your sexual repertoire. In this relaxed place, sex can rebuild a coupling that was starting to crumble.
You'll never move on. The spider web 1. Lie on your sides facing each other. He places his upper leg between your thighs and pulls your top thigh over, holding your bottom. You use your heel to pull him towards you. He rolls forward for deeper penetration.