Could not subscribe, try again laterInvalid Email I first met Gin back in when I was working as a beauty salon manager. Young, tall and handsome, he caught my eye across a bar, and when we started chatting, we just clicked.
Gin first broached the subject of swinging when we started trying for our first child. We had been together for a long time and the passion had faded. In a bid to spice things up we had already introduced sex toys and videos, so I suppose this felt like the next step. It seemed like a step too far.
The idea was put on the backburner and then I fell pregnant with our son, who arrived in Like many couples, our sex life was put on hold while we focused on raising our son. And the sleepless nights left our energy levels low. Even when we did start to get into a routine, the excitement of sex had faded.
We decided to start living in the moment — and part of that was to give swinging a try. From that day on, our lives changed dramatically. Once we realised we could still be faithful but experiment, it was liberating. Video Loading Click to play Tap to play The video will start in 8Cancel Play now We agreed to see what was out there and we found a swingers club in London. We had to provide lots of details beforehand, like our address, mobile number, ID and photos of ourselves.
It was a really long process and it was only once we had been approved that we could attend. Once that happened, I started to feel really nervous. I took ages getting ready that night as my mind raced between nerves and extreme excitement. I painted my nails, shaved my legs, wore a nice cocktail dress with high heels and made sure not to eat any smelly food for dinner.
I also had a much needed gin and tonic to calm me down before we left. Loreta and Gin say swinging has changed their sex life for good Image: We watched people disappearing into dark corners then coming back to the bar area all flushed with messy hair.
People with all different body shapes were mingling together, and there were sounds of pleasure emerging from all angles. It felt like we were watching a film.
We were enjoying it, but felt shy so had another drink as we scanned the room and I took in all the sexy outfits. There was a lot of flesh on show. She was really friendly and smiley and, after a while, Gin told me that he liked her. When the two of them went into one of the private rooms, she called me in after them.
I remember the sensations clearly, the excitement and the pleasure. It was all a bit of an adrenaline rush. The couple also kept saying me and Gin were the best looking couple in the club, which made me feel amazing. The next day I had flashbacks of what had happened and just thinking about it turned me on.
It was like Gin and I were sharing a naughty, exciting secret. The effect on our sex life was impressive. When we were in the bedroom we could imagine ourselves with the other couple, as well as letting our minds wander and thinking what could have happened with other people in the club that night.
The next month, we returned to the swinging club for a second time. After that, we started going to the swingers club about once a month. By day, I was managing the reception team in a big corporate company, and Gin was working in the trading industry. They've even set up their own club Image: I just pay more attention to what me and my partner are doing. Gin, though, only likes women. And very fit, attractive ones. Swinging made such a difference to our sex life that Gin had the idea of opening our own club, so other people could experience what we had.
At the start of this year we mentioned it to some friends. In May we held our first club night. It just looked like a lot of nice people going out drinking and dancing, but they all knew everyone there was open to the prospect of swinging.
The night was brilliant and we had great feedback. Our relationship was always strong, but our sex life was boring. My only regret is that it took me 10 years to try it. Swinging facts and figures Couples attending swinging parties usually adhere to a strict set of rules stock picture Image: So by now, the prevalence of the internet means that the figure will likely be significantly higher.
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