Via Rachel Astarte on January 12, 2 Heart it! Do you love this article? Show the author your support by hearting. When you next make love, focus on these three things, if only by paying closer attention to them as they occur.
Luxuriate on them a little longer than you normally would. This is a great step toward developing greater intimacy. Abstinence It may seem odd to find a tip about abstinence in a collection about better sex. But this tip is so simple, you may have overlooked it as a possibility.
Not forever, but for a set period of time. Or, if a week seems like an unneccessary punishment, try three days. I once went two years without partnered sex. During your time of abstinence time, concentrate on all events, activities, entities, etc. At the end of the period, mentally place sex as one of these pleasures, in equal value. In other words, level out the playing field and put sex in perspective. Try to see it as beautiful as a sunset or a fine piece of chocolate.
Always trust your gut when it comes to whether or not to have sex with someone. It debases you as well as the act of love itself. Do not accept that. It is natural to be attracted to someone and natural not to.
Listen to your body, listen to your heart. Picture a female bird in a tree singing for a mate. However, petting is a wonderful prelude or alternative to actual intercourse.
There are, however, many variations on a theme as far a heavy petting is concerned. One of the most fun for long-time couples is to spend an evening petting instead of making love. Begin as you normally would begin a lovemaking session, only this time, restrict yourselves from actually having intercourse.
Knowing this ahead of time will make the petting session even more intense. See how creative you can get! Keep your clothes on. Body Buccaneer Close your eyes. Have you ever seen it? Time to fix all that. Choose a place where you are most comfortable, either in bed, in a bath, or even lounging on the couch. For each place you touch, try to invest as many senses as you can in the action.
What are the sensations you feel in your body as you do this? Take your time on each area. It may feel odd, but keep going. Mutual Masturbation Mutual masturbation is perhaps the most gratifying safe sex act ever discovered. It combines the thrill of voyeurism with the intimacy of seeing your lover in bliss. Some couples may be averse to sharing such a private act, but I beg you to give it a try at least once. By sharing this act of pleasure, you drag it out of the dark of possible shame and into the light of a more connected state between the two of you.
There are plenty of compilations of fine erotica to be found in any bookstore. Find a collection you both will enjoy. Choose one story apiece, and read it out loud to your lover. Both of you can get naked for story time. Make sure you get through the whole story!