When you finish too early, it can make your partner feel unhappy and make you feel inadequate. We asked our friends at the Between Us Clinic —which provides an online treatment program for men experiencing premature ejaculation—about whether there was something men could do to last longer in bed. Try some new positions! How positions can make a difference There are sexual positions that can help to delay ejaculation until you and your partner are both ready.
Some of these helpful positions rely on reducing stimulation to the ultra-sensitive underside of the penis, while other positions are focused on reducing speed and force of thrust, enabling a slower and more satisfying sexual experience for both partners. Most men are more aroused in a position in which the man is on top of the woman in a more dominant role.
However, when you are in a more passive role, you can pay greater attention to the sensations from the stimulation which is an important part of controlling ejaculation. Muscle tension in the legs and pelvic region can also lead to greater chances of orgasm, and exerting control over these factors can help you to delay ejaculation and ensure that you and your partner enjoy the experience to its fullest.
The woman parts her legs, draping one over the backside of the man so that he can penetrate her. This allows both partners to have some control over the movement and stimulation.
How it helps Although both partners have an equally active, yet equally passive role when using this position, the position places a natural limit on the amount of forceful and deeply penetrative thrusting that is possible. How it helps Because the woman is on top and controlling the action, the urge to use forceful, fast thrusts to penetrate more deeply can be kept in check. By leaving the control over the penetration up to her, there is a better chance of lasting longer and allowing her to find satisfaction by moving the way she likes.
How it helps By deliberately shifting stimulation to the top side of the penis and avoiding actual penetration, the man can avoid overstimulation of the most sensitive area of his penis. The woman can then lift her leg slightly to allow the man to penetrate her from behind.
How it helps This position keeps the depth of sexual penetration under control, and also reduces the amount of movement that is possible during intercourse. This is another position in which the woman plays the larger role in controlling the action.
This position lends itself well to slow, partner-focused sex rather than feisty, fast sex. A final word on delaying climax By being in touch with your body and knowing where the most nerve endings are and thus, which areas are most sensitive , you can get creative with sexual positions and last longer in bed.
Try using fewer positions that stimulate the tender underside of the penis or that result in opportunities for ultra-deep, forceful penetration. Instead, try positions that call for slower movements and more sensation focused on the top side of the penis, as well as those that allow for more relaxation of the pelvic muscles and the muscles in the legs. These more passive, less dominant positions allow for you to focus on the feelings and draw out your sexual experience.