Quite frankly, they typically take this aspect of their relationship for granted — and why not? Well, the reality is that many of the more common reasons for a lack of satisfaction in this area really have nothing to do with age, marital status or physical fitness. Just like any other aspect of the marriage union, physical intimacy can either be a functional part of the relationship or it can be a deeply meaningful form of expression.
The difference lies in how much work a couple is willing to do. Cliff is a clinical psychologist with a M. Remember that our sexuality is a gift from God. Our sexuality as husbands and wives has been wired-in by God. Sexual pleasure within marriage is encouraged — and expected.
Sex is for unity, procreation and pleasure, so keep your priorities straight. Each passage in the New Testament that teaches about the husband-wife sexual relationship either begins or ends with a command for mutuality. You know the drill: That might seem like a modest response on her part, but it actually could be a hindrance to their physical intimacy over time.
Each spouse needs to bring a healthy self-image into the bedroom, or your sex lives will suffer. Get to know your own body.
As a result, what little we actually do know about our bodies we learned in high school biology class. Understanding how your body works and what uniquely influences your sex drive will definitely improve the quality of the physical intimacy you share with your spouse.
And this does not refer to using less electricity in the home! Sexual desire is a manifestation of our sex drive, so if that energy is being spent on building a new business, engaging in sports or any other worthwhile, but time and energy-consuming, activity, your sex life may suffer as a result. Save your strength — your spouse will thank you for it!
Ruthlessly eliminate stress and distractions in your home, and your sex life has a much better chance of improving. Not only is that unfair, it also demonstrates a lack of responsibility.
Each spouse must assume responsibility for his or her own body and related sexual issues. Those are just a few suggestions on how to work at improving the quality of physical intimacy in your marriage.
You may need to go a step further and seek professional help if needed — and, if you do need help, I hope you will. A good place to start is with the website of Clifford and Joyce Penner and Associates: So get to work — and have fun!
Based on principles included in the book, The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment, by Dr. Cliff and Joyce Penner. Printed by permission of HomeWord. For additional information on HomeWord, visit www.