When one partner in a marriage doesn't want sex, what are options? If counseling doesn't work or your partner won't go, what are your options? Tom is 55 and his wife, Shelley, is They've been married 25 years and have three kids. It's not that she doesn't enjoy sex, it's the frequency that's the problem for me. So, what should I do? I've got too much invested. Things got better, but then it felt like she was just performing her wifely duty.
So, I started having affairs. No more frustration, no more feeling like I'm sexually inadequate. Having a woman desire me is intoxicating. My lovers think I'm wonderful, and I still have sex with my wife every other month. For me it's perfect, and everyone's happy. The rest were all married too. I fell in love with one. She was also in love with me. It hurt when it ended, but we went on.
I'm very, very careful to make sure my wife never finds out. I've been doing it for over 20 years, and she never has. I'm not sure what would happen if she did, but I think we'd survive.
I don't know if any of my friends are doing the same thing; we have a 'don't ask, don't tell' policy. He said, "Not always, but like I said, it beats the alternative. He said, "Quite a few, but I guess I want what I want.
All the women I've been with are special. I'm happy for the sharing experiences. I'm pretty sure my wife is having a non-sexual, emotional affair. If that's what she needs, I'm happy for her and I can deal with it. I'm not some sex maniac! I would have been happy with sex once a month and a little affection now and then. But I can count on four fingers how many times we've been intimate during the past three to four years.
I finally quit asking my husband and decided to cut my losses. He just didn't think my feelings counted on such an important marital subject. I think it's a passive-aggressive action on his part, so I took this drastic step and I'm not changing my mind. Tell them I was only one week away from 25 years and I got out and they can too.
She says her husband had been in a sexless marriage for 45 years until his wife died. There are thousands of women who want a relationship that includes sex. To put yourself through the emotional pain of staying in a marriage that is no longer a marriage is a recipe for disaster. Marriage, to me, includes physical and mental closeness. Any marriage that doesn't include the two is not a marriage, it's just a living arrangement with financial bonds. Or did you leave someone there? Send your tale, along with your relationship questions and problems to cheryllavin aol.
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