Fragutz We're not talking about porn stars here. They do it too often and sometimes brutal. I'm sure that's not the case here. That's exactly the kind of missinformation that leads to the fear of it. But what if it doesn't? What if all the nerv endings in that region give you pleasure?
Then the only reason not to do it, is because some 64 years old woman tought you to tell him "Hey, dickhead, we're not doing this" or a 41 years old man, who's looking to score some, displaying a gigolo photo and an "i care about women's feelings" text.
With the risk of making this too personal or selfish as i sayd in my first post i want to try to make u understand where all this is coming from. My wife and i are both in our 30's and don't have jobs that overwork us, we're not stressed about money or anything else. Even so we're only having sex once a week even less and each time is the same. Same place, same maner, same everything.
Why do i have to feel guilty for wanting more? IF it happens so rare at least it should be total sex each time. I don't want to cheat on my wife as i'm sure many of the husbands who's wives say "my husband doesnt' need that, doesn't want the other" have done many times. All i want is for her to at least try some of the things and only then say "i liked it" or "i didn't like it let's never do that again".
I would like to see what chattypatti has to say about all the things people wrote here. That is if she is still following this. Has she come to any decision? RainLover71 I don't think you realize how much damage can be done to the anus,it clearly wasn't designed for penetration because if it was it would have been designed differently and the bottom line here is that it's not a sexual organ. Before birth control many people did this to avoid pregnancy.
And they ended up with damage--anal prolapse. Explore some Tantric sex with your wife. I think what people do in the bedroom is their business. If someone wants to experiment, that is their right. BUT, both partners should be willing. I'm not in my 50's. I've known some to do 'this' and they say they have enjoyed it on an occasional basis. May not be my thing, but I don't begrudge those who are into it.
And my friends who have this in their line up don't have any injuries to date. So, all should do what they are comfortable with and make decisions based on their own preferences. Fragutz So this is the point in our discution where, if we would've been face to face u'd start yelling at me, only because u need to be right all the time, that's how old people behave when they're faced with a new situation. In this post some sayd if u want to, then try it, if not just tell him no.
They gave options but kept an open mind to both posibilities. You sayd you never tried it so how can you be so sure it will feal like you say it will. For example how many of you drink alcohol and smoke cigarettes? Did you ever listen to the ones saying "that's bad for you", "you can die from those"? What about drugs, those who are in their 60's must've tried it at one point. It was "the thing" of that moment.
So tell me how this is different. How does one way of posible pleasure but with risks, differ from the ones i just mentioned, who also come with risks? The anus is not a sex organ. Hmm you don't even need to be awake. If You have not, would You? For Some I'm sure there is fear, for Many it's simply repulsive.
One doesn't have to try something to know it's unappealing. I don't have to try a cigarette to know I don't want to smoke and that it's not good for me. You suggest some Men might cheat if They don't get this at home. You are probably right - some Men would. Many of us wouldn't want the kind of Husband man? Young People didn't invent sex. People have engaged in every sex act that exists since before You were born. Who cares what other people do? Why would this upset anyone if someone says they wish their partner would try it?
I'm not the bedroom police. I don't like the idea of someone threatening to cheat if they do not get to do this with their partner but then would say that this is just the tip of the ice burg as to the problems that couple has. This is a place to give helpful advice without massive judgement. Fragutz "People have engaged in every sex act that exists since before You were born".
I have no problem with women who don't want anal sex for themselves, and as i aslo sayd higher in this thread, i don't find the refusal a reason for him to leave her. I have a friend who's wife is a doctor. His teeth are caved and he's in pain alot because his own wife That scared him and to this day he wouldn't go see the dentist. Stupid advises lead to stupid decisions. Let's suppose for a sec that everyone here would tell chattypatti "go for it, it's wonderfull", and she would do it and get hurt?
Wouldn't that be wrong? That's what i was trying to say in my other post. Write your pros and cons, but let her make the decision. You asked if i woud agree to have a penis in my anus.
If i would know that this would make my wife feel any kind of pleasure during sex, i'd probably say yes. But last time i checked my wife didn't have a penis.