If by chance a plus size woman does come to mind, she is one that gets a pass. I know some of you are thinking… a pass? Yes, there is a pass given to certain plus size women based on their shape and assets. So, while a woman who is curvy or voluptuous may be considered sexy, fat girls like me rarely are.
We should acknowledge the fact that per society, all plus size women are not created equally. Over the years, society has bestowed upon us many different titles; names like curvy, thick, chubby and voluptuous are all used to describe plus size women. While I feel that these titles are used by society to create a divide in our community; many times, plus size women absorb them in an effort to feel better about themselves and their bodies.
It is as if being curvy negates the fact that they are plus size! However, as a woman who cares about other women and who loves the truth, I want to be real about being fat and sexy it does exist. Yes, fat and sexy is a thing; it has been proven time and time again.
However, for many plus size women it is hard to tap into that sexiness due to the pictures that society uses to promote being sexy. Well, I am here to tell you that is a bunch of bullcrap. Those depictions may be sexy but the truth is they are not the only pictures of a sexy woman! For most of my adult life I struggled with loving my body.
Although there have been plenty of men that stated I was sexy in their eyes, that meant nothing because I was blind to it. Because just like love, sexy begins with self and until I could tap into it and believe, nothing and no one else matters. Your mind does matter! Many women feel that their sexiness is attached to a man or woman but that is furthest from the truth. Being sexy is about the confidence and energy you put into the atmosphere. That confidence and energy is what will attract others to you.
Never feel that you need to dumb yourself down. Being sexy is not about what you wear, it is about how you wear it! Your confidence and energy will allow you to be sexy full clothed or in your birthday suit. I hope that this helps you to serve up a little sexy on this special day whether you are doing it for your mate or yourself.